General Chat

Hi everyone, I have a lot of catching up to do but just come on to say hello.
Welcome Bernie, nice to see you on here. I can't help with HRT as my doctor wouldn't give me it, I was taking something at the time but can't remember what for. Lol, you all know how many things are wrong with me I get them all mixed up at times.
Gail I am so sorry about your dad, it is an awful thing to have to watch them when they are ill. I hope he improves soon.
Sue I feel for you, it is agony for me at the moment walking and my back is bad again, can't even get my knickers on right.
Angela said she had a good sleep surprisingly, thinks it's because she knows Eddie is not suffering anymore. Thank you for all your messages for her but she can't face coming on yet, understandable really.
Sorry if I haven't mentioned anyone but I think of you all the time.

Must go, love to all
Caz xx

Hi everyone
welcome Legs, hrt didn't do for me but I reckon the menopause is like giving birth, we all go through it in a different way but still come out the other side. Does that make sense!!!!
Gail, I am sorry about your dad, I do hope he improves, it is such a stressful time.
My own bits and bobs are not improving so I am looking at having to go to the docs. My headaches and my breathing are getting me down now, but I know there is little he can do about them, it just helps to talk.
The next 6 months are full of problems to be faced and then they may not be erased.
Anyway,live for today, Love and hugs for all who need them
Janet

Gail sorry to read that your Dad is ill, so sad when a parent becomes so frail, He will be so pleased to have you with him, precious moments you can spend together. Thinking of you.

Bernie Pleased that you decided to come on here. I took HRT and it was excellent for me. the trouble is that was before they were worried about the risks involved in taking it so you need to look at those. a good idea to discuss things with your nurse.

Men have great difficulty in understanding the side effects of the menopause, especially those that affect them directly. You maybe need to have a good talk with your OH to get him to understand. If there is any literature at your doctors on the menopause let him read it. I know it is difficult but try not to push him away too much, these times will pass tell him while you may have gone of 'it' you have not gone off him. What you are feeling is normal.

Ann
Glos

Thank you Mary. I have seen my dad go through so much with operations etc, but this is the first time I have felt fear. And I am very fortunate to have had him for so long.

There is just so much going on in my life just now I wonder at times how much we can bear.
Gail

Gail so sorry to hear about your Dad, I work with the elderly and have an immediate mind picture. So frail, so tired, so sweet. Sad, and yet, from my perspective, you are so fortunate to have had him for so long. Sending you hugs.

Bernie, it's worth trying HRT, it didn't work for me because of sensitivities, but it does work for many,many sufferers. I used a glass of soy milk twice daily and then once daily when I felt better, it releases 'phyto-estrogens' into the body, so is a natural replacement (which is why I don't allow my young granddaughters to have more than a rare glass - don't want quicker development).
I still take a glass a day 20 years later, helps my mood too I believe.
Good luck and welcome to the thread.
Mary

That is a really good move Bernie. And please let us know how you get on. Take care and be kind to yourself and do not let things get you down.

All of us are here for you, and each other.

Gail

I have only just caught up with this thread, I am sorry that Eddie has lost his fight, Angela my thoughts are with you.

Sue xx

thankyou gail going to try see the nurse in well women clinic let you no how i get on ok x

Hi Bernie, I went through menopause at 28 years, I did try HRT, but it did not work for me, I think due to my age. People I do know say it is wonderful, and it is worth giving it a try and see how you get on. I think it is important to talk to your doctor about it though and learn everything you can before deciding. Do what you think is right for you.

I have also heard of I think is red clover, which does the same thing. Also I do take evening primrose, and that has worked for me.

PM me if you would like, and welcome to our group.

Gail

hugs to you all first that are in need like me i have been told you are a great bunch on there by ann in glos am having problems with menopause am 50 on friday and having my ups and downs gon off it you no and othere half dos not understand we been married 32 years 29 may and have lovely family but i dont no anythink about hrt i have never been told what it dos what it for if this is my problem and i need it would any one tell me what to do ples bernie

im sorry to hear that your dad is sick thinking of you and your dear dad

love and hugs

carolina xx

My dad is very sick in hospital. Lucky he is reasonably close for living where we do, it is a little bush hospital which I am able to drive to. I will try and look in but will be spending as much time with him as I can.

He fell asleep today holding my hand and when I would try to move or get up he would grab it and not let go even when sleeping. It was lovely, at the moment am very stiff and sore from not being able to move.

Love to all and will try to keep you updated.

My dad is a beautiful human being. As all of you would know it really hurts seeing them so frail and ill.

Gail

Love to Angela in her sad time, My thoughts are with you and your family. Rest in peace Eddie.

Gail

morning everyone angila my thoughts and prayers are with you xx im up early again having trouble sleeping again only managing to get about 5 hours of desterbed sleep a night ,dont no if its the side effect of the meds any body else suffer from this side effect of citalipran ?hows every one doing hope you all have a good day im of to drink my cuppa now catch you all latter hugs to all xxxelainexx

Love to everyone, am enjoying having the house to myself lol
Lizxx

Went to Counsellor Mon pm and she is going to try and get me some cognitive behaviour therapy altho she said the list is long.
x

Angela, my deepest sympathy on your sad loss. The only comfort you can have is that your Eddie is no longer suffering and in pain, and that you were able to give him loving care and companionship during his darkest times. I hope happy memories will help you through.
I did nudge the Remember Me thread as there are some lovely verses on there which might bring a little comfort and hope that you will be reunited one day.
Lizxx

I'm so sorry I failed to notice in my rush this morning that Caz had told us of Eddies passing. Angela You were so lucky you had him, move in with you for his last days. The house must feel so empty now. God bless you, and help you through the coming weeks and months. Carole xx

Jeanie, if the test is due you are going to have to bite the bullet. Dr may not mention your weight. On the other hand he/she may give you some help with losing some if he knows it is bothering you. Enjoy the books. Give them to a charity shop when you have finished them.

Ann
Glos

i am so sorry to hear about eddie my deepest condolences angela

love and hugs

carolina xx

Angela xxx

I am so very sorry to hear you have lost Eddie, who was so precious to your heart.
I know that words cannot begin to comfort you at this sad time but please remember how much you are cared about.
May you find comfort in your happy memories of Eddie, who is now at peace.

God bless and take care xxx

JoyceP