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Wanna come and stay with me Gail?

I probably don't need to take anything.I do take pills for something else and I am just not interested in what they do.Just not interested in medical at all.In my quest to avoid doctors at all costs I was finally forced to go and see one and she seemed quite surprised that I could walk in there at all,or be pushed in kicking and biting!
Generally I read the leaflet so I know if anything else wrong with me might be a side effect and just take whatever they think necessary,tick the boxes on the repeat prescription and don't even know what they are called.
Just as living with the mad woman made me depressed or at least desperately unhappy before,it is being stuck at home with a ninety year old man who needs constant nudging that is doing my head in now.

Have not been on for a couple of days, received some much wanted certs for OH family from UK, so have been having fun with those. Also been helping SIL cousin with their tree.

At one time I tried not to take my pills and fell literally in a screaming heap. I do not argue any more and just take them, even the heavy pain pills when desperate. Have tried several different types of meds and took a while to find one that suits me. I now do not care that I will be on them for ever, hated the thought at one time, but they do keep me stable and also help with nerve pain.

Have been getting a little rain, so happy with that, and great to lay in bed and listen to as well. Very soothing.

Teesdale, hope you are feeling a little better.

Carole hope you are okay, been a tough couple of weeks for you, glad you did not bite, pity your OH did though.

Have been looking around for places to book a holiday this year, bit closer to home though as daughters place is just so far away. Getting the pets organised is the hardest, but would not be without them. Boyo is doing okay, and we are settling in with his food, which we change again in a couple of weeks. No more tablets for him as he has finished his course for now. He is just so big it was difficult to get the tablets in.

Off for a lovely big bath, as OH is home tonight can have a good soak, instead of a shower.

Love and hugs

Gail

Hello Sharron, I presume you mean my comments about drugs available in the 1970s compared to today. I am no expert, but worked in the pharmaceutical industry for about 20 years so picked up a thing or two.
Maybe you don't need anything at all, but I think you should talk to a doctor.
I know of Librium. It is related to Valium and I think has similar actions but your doctor can confirm this. An antidepressant can help you but they take 2-4 weeks to really affect your mood, and according to my doctor should be taken for at least 3 months before trying without.
It is great that you don't have to live with a "mad" woman. Sometimes I feel like I am living with a mad man. Myself. But the feeling doesn't last long.
Colin

That last answer was quite an eye-opener to me. I have been doing all soorts of things to avoid medication,well avoid doctors at all costs really, as I didn't want to go back on the medication I was taking in my teens.
Sometimes I get a bit stir crazy in the current situation and have just got on with it.

It just never occured to me that I last took tranquilizers,Librium I think it was called,nearly forty years ago and that medication is very different now.Of course,I don't have to live with a mad woman either,my esteemed mother(you ask her!)

Hello Teesdale, I hope things have picked up. Early in my depression I found that the only person who seemed to understand was my sister, who I later found goes through extremely bleak periods. So did our mother, but she died in 1975 before the modern meds were available.
I think she was treated with valium, which can be great for anxiety but is probably the wrong drug for depression.
Eileen. I got your reply and hope things are going OK with the trip.
Gail and others, my bleakest periods were a long time ago, about March 1985, June 1987 and April 1997. The latter followed a hypomanic state brought on I believe by the antidepressant. I was on a major tranquillizer for a few weeks and Lithium, but that did not hold the depression. Since then, I have been on Lithium and later valproate as a mood stabiliser, with anti-depressant when I need it. At present I do feel I need it (started December, job stress) but hope to come off it when things settle down.
gentle hugs to YCaz and Deanna and all who need them.
xx Colin

Hi Deanna, glad that chair is making you comfy and warm! Will catch up with you soon, honest!

Carole, I am glad your Aunt has settled so well and is well liked. Must be so nice for her to be in company and warm and waited on! Did you ever find that missing jewellery when you cleared her things? I think it was you told us about her saying some had been stolen.

Take care all, must get to bed in a mo

Love
Lizxxx

Sorry I haven't been around much, just had so much on. I pop in to see how you are and find you falling out!! Haha.

Hi Teesdale ~~~~ Had quite a lot of time off the last couple of years myself, with depression,stress. Feel bad but work have been very good. I go back feeling as if they will set me up, and sack me for something!! When really I have a lot of support at work it's just odd people who don't understand. Please feel free to talk to any of us on here. It really does help to talk to those who understand what you are going through

Things are settling down a bit now with regards to my Aunt. She seems ok in her new home. The staff all like her and say she is no trouble. No chance of her going home as we have emptied her home all but the furniture, which has to go soon or she will have to pay council tax!

Mum phoned last week (Wednesday)her fridge freezer had broken down and she needed another straight away. And her old one needed taking away.
I was tired and just finished work, hadn't eaten but she wanted a new freezer sorting out. I didn't bite so she phoned back later and got Steve who did bite and off we went to get her a fridge freezer!!

Hi Everyone,
Thank you all especially Ann in Glos, MaxiMary, Liz and Eileen for your thoughts, alot of people are sad at the loss of a loved one at the minute ((((hugs)))) to everyone that needs them.
Eileen it was lovely of you to go with ex to funeral, my grandsons family never speak to us even though i would like to speak to them sometimes.I hope that you all enjoy your holiday.
I had first part of computer exam thursday before last, was susposed to have second part last thursday but made an excuse to avoid as was not too sure of it, had not practiced much, friend knocked on door later on thursday to say that the teacher wanted me up on monday for second part, lol.
Must go now, take care everyone.
Claire if you are looking in Hi, talk soon.
Liz, thank you so much.
Lily.

Gail.... it is a beaut.... I can sit in it and lie in it (but don't) and it is so comfortable.... and warm too.
When I can lift my legs off the floor I miss all the drafts.
So... as far as I am concerned...my son spent his money very well..;-0)

Teesdale, I take it that you had some support from some of the girls?
If you need any more and you think I can help, PM me. Chin up love nothing is as bad as we think. I am having a bad'ish time just now too and I am on my tablets all the time.
We will win through as we usually do. X

I would like to mention all of you but I just can't... so you will have to all accept that I am thinking of you all.
Love Deanna XXXX

thanx guys heaps

No I'm not really but you can tell that Gail I will take my ball and go home,so there!

teesdale,
I sent a cutting from a newspaper to my son about the same problem that you have.

It seems an employer has a duty of care to provide a stress free work life for you ( that's not worded very well but I hope you get my drift)
You definitely need to contact Citizens Advice Bureau about the way you have been treated, that's not the way for them to go telling you not to be a victim, and it can be linked to workplace bullying if they behave like that, I would imagine.
google workplace bullying and workplace stress and have a read, there is sure to be lots about it and you can get an idea of what to do from there, also speak to your doctor about it as they might know about the rules in place, after all it will apply to them too as employers.

Good luck, I am not usually around till late at night till dawn so if you need an ear then look out for me.
Good luck

Lizx


Hugs for all including Sharron tho I thought you weren't a huggy person, or think you said that once lol

xx

Didn't want love and hugs from Gail anyway,so there.

thanx hun xx

teesdale have sent you a PM.

Deanna has surfaced yet again, that chair must be a beaut. :)

Love and hugs to everyone, sept Sharron, as she will get narky.

Gail

If ever there is a time when you need somebody on your side it is when you are depressed.Maybe others have gone through worse but you are not others and I don't suppose they went through it deliberately.

Looks like you need your doctor on your side and see if he can recommend somebody else to back you up.Citizens Advice looks like it needs a visit too.

going out for a while but would really appreciate some support if possible

hello

i'm having trouble with my depression i am on the max dose of citalopram but at present feel its my work load that stresses me i have tried talking but was told that others had been through worse than me and i should stop playing the victim. in all the 12 years in my work i've probably had a max of two weeks off sick and not for my depression. i have now gone off with my depression and am in a bit of a quandry with regards what to do with my future and need someone to talk to can anyone help if so please inbox me.

Well the reply thingy didn't help me much yesterday... I think GR hates me.... boo hoo
still I was able to have chats with pals through the messages and my e-mails. still owe you an answer Eileen I think.

This seems to have been a very sad time for everyone, my heart goes out to you all. Bless you. x

worked so hard yesterday that I really knocked myself out a bit, and this morning could not face making the bed. Allan , bless him, made it I've noticed but I think I will have to *straighten it out * before we get into it! ha ha ha

I am still in a very 'funny' state of mind. I cannot finish my book, I don't seem to be able to keep my mind on my searches and I am desperate to find ONE rellie whose death is turning out to be a nightmare to find.
I seem okay, but I know I'm not. Depression is such a destructive emotion isn't it?
Ah well, been here before and got through so I will get through it again.... just give it time as usual.

Off to watch Doctors and have a bit of a rest.
Thinking is our biggest problem isn't it ?

Hugs to all and I have not forgotten anyone I think of you all.
Deanna XXXX

Hello everyone.

Thanks for the sympathy Liz, I was very fond of this s.i.l, so want to say goodbye if poss.My favourite s.i.l phoned later yesterday for a long chat.She’s such a lovely person, bless her.I couldn’t find it in my heart to refuse to go with ex. If he feels the need for support.
As you say Liz, anyone could have found Matt. (ex. Collegue), but he was quite well hidden, and he made sure he would be found very quickly.He left clear instructions in his farewell letter to his wife, so it was only a matter of one hour…
Colin, have replied to your p.m.It was very kind of you to take the trouble.Am glad you and Gail dare to mention about feeling very near the edge, as it were, in the past, but were too tired or ‘lazy’ to do anything about it.I have felt like this too.Having seen the misery and pain this causes family and friends/collegues, well….need I say more?
Brittany is lovely this time of the year, mimosa grows everywhere, even in the wild.Still far to drive to though! Your ex. Girlfriend certainly got around! Phew…
Deanna, you are not a “troublesome housewife”. You can’t help having circulation probs. Can you? My sister has always felt the cold badly, and she is very healthy, has never been ill in her life, apart from colds etc.I don’t feel the cold much, or am a bit immune to it maybe? If Hell is hot, Heaven must be just right.LOL !
An typing this n the Word program, but it still looks odd when it turns up on the D/A thread.Can’t explain what I mean, but the sentences are broken up oddly..

Must get cracking, lots to do.

Take care and be happy. Eileen

I typed this yesterday, couldn’t send it.

Carole, how very sad it must have been for everyone yesterday.Dreadful when someone so young is taken.It doesn’t seem fair.