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URGENT - Can anyone do a Scottish look ups please?

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happydaze

happydaze Report 21 Aug 2012 10:52

Hi everyone,

I am so sorry for not having been on or responding for a while. We have mananged to re-home the cat and have asked for Bill's ashes to be scattered in the same area as his mother. We offered to pay for the funeral, but unbelievably got turned down.....We have cleared the flat of anything that we felt was very personal to Bill and items that we felt he wouldnt want to be dumped or vwere of significant value, prior to giving over the keys. We do wonder if there is some kind of cover up, due in essence to a medical cock-up and the fact that his Rolex watch has gone missing from the hospital!!
We did consult with the police before taking the action we have done and they felt that as we were in possession of the keys we could do what we liked!!!! Also as the authorities hadnt been there and didnt know what was in the flat it sort of didnt matter.........!

We really have appreciated your help and support and we are sorry that we can not report a better outcome.

Best wishes to you all

Christine

Janice

Janice Report 14 Aug 2012 21:44

Yes unfortunately.

Dea

Dea Report 11 Aug 2012 17:21

Hi Janice,

I assume the son who authoriesed the scattering of his mother's ashes was the same son who has recently died?

Dea x

Janice

Janice Report 10 Aug 2012 22:50

I wonder if Bill's funeral will be a cremation. Maybe Christine could request the ashes be scattered at Hither Green with his Mum.

GlasgowLass

GlasgowLass Report 10 Aug 2012 22:16

Oh Dear, that's what I feared.
I hope everything works out
Anne

Janice

Janice Report 10 Aug 2012 14:10

Reply:

Hi Janice

Sorry it was her son that arranged for her ashes to be scattered.

Thanks
Denise

Janice

Janice Report 10 Aug 2012 13:30

The Scottish lookups are in pursuit of siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins.

I agree with you. It surely must be possible for friends to organise a funeral if there's no family.

wisechild

wisechild Report 10 Aug 2012 13:17

Sorry. My mistake. As the original request was for look ups in Edinburgh, I assumed that was where the person had died.
Would still have thought that the Local Authority would have been pleased that someone was willing to take over the funeral arrangements.

Janice

Janice Report 10 Aug 2012 12:55

They aren't in Scotland: Christine lives in Kent.

wisechild

wisechild Report 10 Aug 2012 12:52

Having worked for the Local Authority & had some dealings with the disposal of people who die without relatives, I find it a bit odd that the Local Authority want to fund a pauperĀ“s funeral when there is someone who wants to take responsibility.
Might be worth contacting the Court of Protection.........although things may be different in Scotland.

Penny

Penny Report 10 Aug 2012 12:18

I'd be getting a call in to these people - get some advice as to why yo cant arrange funeral if thats what you want to do

http://www.bereavementadvice.org/the-funeral/paying-for-the-funeral/financial-assistance.php

Janice

Janice Report 10 Aug 2012 12:18

Have e-mailed Denise to ask.

Penny

Penny Report 10 Aug 2012 12:09

The death cert for Wilhemina Joyce Robson might be useful, In fact if your rang Lewisham they might ( Might!) tell you tha name of the person that registered her death. Tell them your circumstances and they might be willing to help.

May have been a family member

Someone will have scattered ( or instucted) scattering -

Janice

Janice Report 10 Aug 2012 11:22

Dear Janice

Thankyou for your email both Wilhemina & William were cremated here at Hither Green Crematorium.
William died 30th July 1991 and was cremated on 7th August 1991 his cremated remains were removed by the funeral directors as requested by his wife.
Wilhemina died 19th February 2003 and was cremated on 3rd March 2003 her cremated remains were scattered in our grounds area G2.

Hope this is helpful

Denise Evans
Registrar & Services Officer

LadyScozz

LadyScozz Report 10 Aug 2012 02:33

Try posting a message on www.TalkingScot.com

You have to register to post messages, but it's free.

Go to "General Discussion"

Nice friendly folk use the site.

Liam

Liam Report 10 Aug 2012 02:29

nudge

happydaze

happydaze Report 9 Aug 2012 23:07

Janice are you a saint?

Yes not far from London, we're in Kent

Christine

Janice

Janice Report 9 Aug 2012 22:49

Bit of a long shot, but why don't you phone Lewisham in the morning and explain what is happening. See if they can tell you over the phone if there's space in the parents graves. (Are you in London by the way?)

Contact

Bereavement Services

Tel:
Cemeteries: 020 8314 9635

happydaze

happydaze Report 9 Aug 2012 22:37

Thank you everybody so far. I can not express my gratitude enough. You're all wonderful.

It is so difficult, as the authorities requested that as friends we make a decision to turn of the life support machine after their cock up and yet now we're not allowed to do anything and they want the keys to the flat etc even tho' Bill had entrusted us with the. So that they can conduct the paupers funeral, this saturday and only 3 people are allowed to attend!!! They're saying we can't do one for him as we're not next of kin.............aaaaarrrrgh, sooooo much red tape!

Sorry for the frustrated rant.

We reaaly do appreciate your support, our brains are completely fried at the moment.

Christine

Janice

Janice Report 9 Aug 2012 17:24

That would be fantastic Anne, but we're up against the clock now! Wish Lewisham had replied today :-(