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Trying to separate two Thomas Dickens' born around 1829-1835, in Bucks, district of Leighton Buzzard, possibly Soulbury or Stoke Hammond or Wing. I am sure there are two people here, but I can't work out which one's mine! Help please! Denise

Sorry I cant help with your Thomas Dickens but wondered if you know whether or not either of them had a son called Thomas, more particularly Thomas George William. The Thos Geo Wm in my family was born in 1892 and his father had exactly the same name but I have absolutely no idea where or when the father was born.
Jill

Jill - check the date of the posting!! try sending a pm through GR

Ann, of what relevance is the date of the posting?
I have relatives called Dickens and so have found this thread. Do you have any Dickens in your tree?
If you do not what concern is it of yours? If the info was relevant it is still relevant!
I have seen you offering "advice" on other threads where you had no reason to be!

sorry you have chosen to adopt such an unpleasant attitude - the reason that I and many others point out that a thread is old is because often the poster has important information that the poster would like to have - therefore I suggest they contact the poster via GR as I have done here - many members donlt know there is an option to send a message via GR

Also, with regard to having Dickens in my tree - no I do not, but then who do you think helps people on here finding their relatives - if we only helped people who had a connection with our tree no one would get any help at all

and so say all of us

thank you for that Evelyn - it is upsetting when someone is unneccessarily unpleasant

Hm. Looks as though Susan hasn't quite got the hang of the boards yet.


Susan, we are all volunteers on here trying to help each other. Ann was only being helpful to Jill - there are several of us who add this sort of info when we see an old thread being answered.

Mind you, I find that I am sending pms rather than adding to the thread, because new folk often don't know how to find a message once they have posted it.

Please bear with us Susan and if we can help you with any searches then we will try but please be patient.

mmm been caught the same way once when I didnot read the thread properly and was settled in a proper manner
and 8mths to reply chewed on that well!
wayne

I can see that it is easy enough to find out how to send a message to someone; you just click on their name.

I also find it easy to search the boards for info on newly discovered relatives; it does not matter how long the info has been there.

I always check my threads for new replies and assumed that everyone does the same, so the original poster should see a reply even if it is added years later, unless their membership has lapsed, in which case a message won't get through anyway.

Maybe I just find it inefficient to clutter the boards up with stuff that is not relevant!

The thing is, if a new member replies to a message that is 4 o 5 years old, it is highly unlikely that they will get a reply from the poster (who is unlikely to be checking threads after that length of time).

Rather than let a contact and maybe important info go to waste, this is why Ann and several of us advise them to click on the poster's name and send an email that way - hopefully the poster still has the same email address!

That's not cluttering up the boards, that's trying to be helpful.

well most of what you have posted is irrelevant Susan - you havenlt answered the question of who do you think finds relatives for fellow members - if you wait for someone to come along who has a connection with your tree you will have one very long wait indeed

I suggest you try and find a posting where the "helper" has any connection at all to the poster

Actually, just checking in the search box, there are 300 matches for Dickens on this site!

If you want to tell us who you are looking for Susan, we can possibly help you.

Cynthia; I bow to your superior knowledge regarding sending an email; I didn't think it was possible unless a contact had already given you their address. In fact I thought the site was supposed to keep email addresses secret.

I don't have a problem with someone not related helping someone else out with info; but Ann's comments don't seem to fit into that category!

And as for assuming that everyone knows how to reply on thread or check their threads
Well they dont,as a lot are elderly and learning to use a computer for the first time,let alone navigate round a site such as this.
"Evelyn "who has come to Anns defence only found out how it was done through the helpers{unpaid volunteers} such as Ann, on the boards.
And ,as Ann has pointed out,if you wait for an answer to a request for help from a "connection"to that name you will most definatley have a long wait.
I have never seen Ann be rude to anyone on these boards in the 2 years I have been on here and for her to be spoken too like that for no good reason is somewhat ignorant in my book.

OK; I just find the comment "check the date of the posting" a little facetious, maybe it wasn't meant to be!

I still think everyone should check their threads however long they have been on here; that I see as being polite!

your email address is secret - by clicking on a member's name you can send an email but only through the GR site - nothing like your private email which we are told by GR to keep off the boards for our own safety, and various other reasons too

It was a while before I realised I could contact people via the site

By the way, I certainly was not being facetious in any way at all - never am

Ann, apologies for mistaking your intent. I suppose I assumed that everyone using the site would be fairly computer literate and able to use the tools provided.

thank you Susan, much appreciated - the first boo boo I made when coming on the boards was to criticise someone's spelling - such a no no!!! I was villified as the poor girl was dyslexic - learned my lesson well and truly on that one

Ann