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Kia Ora Shan from way down under! I am sorry you feel angry and can understand it- just wanted to put in another side of the story. I look after a severely disabled mother, often inand out of hospital and I live in another time zone. If I put a request on the Board it is often at this time of the day while most of you I hope are fast asleep!! By the time I get back to the board my request is very often about Pg 10-15 especially at weekends. If I miss a day it has sometimes disapppeared ! I know now I can search the Achives but like last night I replied to Lindsay about 10 days after s/he had found my info because in the interim I had found a family member on this board - very distracting!! In the past year I have progressed further than in the previous 5. I am very grateful to all the GCers like yourself and hate to see people upset when they are so generous with their time & resources and advice . Come down under for a hollie - you can ski, swim in a hot pool under the stars, and get shook up by an earthquake - all in one day! Priororiterise what you are doing as Geoff says . I always try to help those who ask for NZ or Austn help and encourage those who have "lost" a rellie to look for emigration as a solution and I have had some very rude replies - I just delete the emails as usually these people disclose something which indicates to me they haven't done their homework! And I think they deserve to be left to swim all the way to hot pool which their ancestors probably enjoyed! Keep smiling and do what YOU want to do! Marlene

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I sometimes wonder how many people read the following on the home page:- "Web resources Visit our updated links page. Don’t know where to start? Our guide to tracing your family history can help!" I wonder that because, by the question asked, it would seem most likely that they hadn't! On several occasions when I have responded to people asking for help, I have made certain suggestions to help them, and also referred them to this on the home page. I have been pleased to see that other people are referring others to the home page, too. Happy hunting to everyone enjoying their family history research. Joy

Hi Sue, i dont want to upset any one, you tell me what i mean Shan

shan, thanks for the e mail, hope you feel better for it. sorry you seem to think i hadnt read you thread properly. in future i will keep my thoughts to myself, please put any reply you have on here, no more e mails please .sue. sorry to end this on a sour note, but in all my time on gc that was the first time i have received what i call a rude e mail, just after i had said how friendly this site is !

hi shan, sorry , i think i have lost the plot ! if i can help with anything i do [ only have a bit of spare time, so dont help as much as i would like] if i need help i ask. even if no one can help , it is nice to 'talk' to people. when i help others, i really do not notice wether they thank me or not, i never bother to check. i do sometimes lose threads, if i cannot find time to check for a couple of days, whoops- they have gone. and i am a proper nosey thing, i do read all of them on records. i dont even mind doing 1881 searches, i enjoy it. aaaah now thats the word-enjoy .i am sorry if i am offending anyone, but sometimes people get upset on here, and i find that a shame. everyone i have 'spoken ' to has been lovely. i feel as though i have made friends, and keep in contact with several, by e mail. please ,rise above whatever or who ever as caused offence, just looking at my tree, i know life is too short. sue. ANGELA phillips- please dont stop asking for help, people have a choice wether they help or not. it would be a sad site if everyone stopped asking for help, thats what the site is here for .lol.sue.

HI Angela, thank's for the reply, you say i'm a star along with everyone that do'es the lookup's. Your the star for taking time to read the thread, that was my point to start Thankyou!!!!! Shan

Hi Shan, This is all new to me, have been researching since January, but must admit can't remember seeing your name up here. I do check quite regularly but find it difficult to get on in the day due to me looking after our very lively 2 year old little boy! I must say, that I am one of those people who only gets to visit the London office once a month and therefore am always requesting help of others on this board. I always say thankyou, but perhaps I ask for too much and am greedy for the info. I have become a family history freak since discovering genealogy and seem to be in such a rush to uncover all the hidden history. I do apologise to anyone out there that I have bombarded with requests. It's a shame it's taken a message like Shans for me to realise this. I hope you don't vanish from the board, you are all such stars it's unbelievable. Regards Angela

Geoff, now both you and me know what you told me. Thank's luv you load's, (mind you playboy!!! are you sure??????) Shan

Shan If you'd tried just a little bit harder, YOU could have found my Robert Goodman for me.

Hi All, failed to mention, i emailed John direct, told him that Irish record's are hard to come by as a lot were destroyed in the fire, and Scotland do'sent come under the british isle's so he would have a hard time. Just thought i'd give him a chance to ask again to see if there was someone who could help. Thankyou all for your time Shan

HI All, i'm nudging this up the board for JOHN W>YORKS GC. read his message to me Thank's all GC peep's luv you load's Shan

Shan been there you know it and you helped me through it we have a little community going here and we always know if all else fails someone on here maybe able to help. I have had some diggs at me and i spend hours helping others i am like a dog with a bone wont let go till i get something for that person as i know what its like waiting for news of an ancestor. So dont you feel down Shan keep up the good work and remember your a wombleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee Col xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

This is to Marion as well because I can't find her similar thread. Thank you to both of you for all you do. I do agree with your sentiments ... because I have given help (sometimes thinking hold on surely someone using a computer would know about google searching, but maybe not, so I explain how I found something), but more times than not, I have not received even an acknowledgment. I don't want lots of thank yous, but just a reply to say it's been received would be nice! and I have emailed directly as well as posting message-replies. I wonder sometimes why some people subscribe! There, I feel better now. Joy

Shan,just read your thread. dnt let things get you down your a valuable part of the genes family..why should you feel uptight..glad you aired your views better out than in my dear..maybe now the people who are upsetting you will realise.enjoy your break/time out..but hurry back soon.xxx

well shan, ive posted lots on most boards and i must be black balled, scotish help and irish help, and im still waitng, if ive done wrong let me know, cant see it , this it not a dig at you shan, some people get help and some dont, keep your chin up, and your good work, john.

Hi Shan, thanks for all your lookups for me.Don't stop.I haven't replied to your last e-mail because computer got sick(virus),I could,t send e-mails or save anything or print anything out,had to reformatt drive,but am now up and running(well, walking anyway),I am not sure which images I managed to save,but unfortunately all e-mail addresses that I had stored have been wiped clean,so if you drop of this board I wont be able to get in touch. Many thanks, John

Hi all, Thankyou all so much for your kind thought's and comment's on this, mean's a lot to know that there are people who listen and care, so for the majority of you a big THANK'S. All who mailed me i have replied, if i missed anyone then i apologise Shan

Shan, I have just caught up with the messages & having looked at all the good advice you give out, I hope you don't disappear. I am fairly new to all this, I have offered to help & you are right, some people do not appreciate the effort that goes into searching but there are definitely more good apples than bad. The records I have are very sparse & not very well presented, but I still feel disappointed when I can't help people. Please don't go, there are obviously loads of other people who appreciate your knowledge & generosity as much as I do. Di

hi shan what a shame you are so upset and angry, i use all the boards on the site and try to read all the threads, but there are so many it is not always possible to have the time. I ask for lookups when i get stuck and need a fresh pair of eyes, after useing the relevant sources available that i know of. I have asked for help a couple of times this week, and had a great response from the team.My tunstall birkbeck line 2 brothers seemed to vanish they wern't here on the 1891 census.i had peoples help and found the marriages, i went to bed and had a restless night, for some reason australia popped into my head. So i looked up a thread about australia and found some tips on sites. Low and behold i have found them in australia. i am medically retired due to a spinal problem, and look after my grandaughter during the week, and for the past month have had my 5 kids descend on me during the weekends, so have had little time, to assist people. A month ago i trapsed through 5 cemetries writing down names from the stones, and i haven't had the time to put them on here yet. But the next 2 weeks i am free to catch up, due to katie's mum being on holiday. I am always grateful for the help i ask for and the tips given, and always say thankyou. and i help in any way possible, if you have been upset by someone, then why not email them directly,you may find that they are sorry for upsetting you.Not everybody is bought up with their p's n q's, or they may have been distracted before saying thankyou, take care happy hunting sandra