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I'm searching for Reuben Demmond born in Layer de la Haye Essex, found him in 1861 census aged 6 living as Reuben Goodey with grandparents John and Ann Demmond and their daughter Emily Demmond,he is also listed as Reuben Demmond living with Joseph and Mary Ann Demmond, in the same village in the 1861 census, i believe he married Elizabeth ?in 1882 and had a daughter Ada the same year by 1901 Reuben was widowed and Ada was boarding with her dads neighbours. How can i find Reuben before 1861, and the maiden name of his wife, i also cannot find any death records for Reuben or Elizabeth.... What am i doing wrong!!!!!

hi izzy i found this on free bmd Surname First name(s) District Vol Page -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Marriages Dec 1882 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- BROWN Henry William Lexden 4a 707 FISHER Elizabeth Ann Lexden 4a 707 Goodey Reuben Lexden 4a 707 Hitchen Elizabeth Emma Lexden 4a 707 i also found a birth for ada goodey in 1883 in lexden susie --------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Marriages Dec 1882 BROWN Henry William Lexden 4a 707 FISHER Elizabeth Ann Lexden 4a 707 Goodey Reuben Lexden 4a 707 Hitchen Elizabeth Emma Lexden 4a 707

hiya this your chap??? 1881 Name: Ruben Demon Age: 26 Estimated birth year: abt 1855 Relation: Son Father's name: Joseph Mother's name: Mary A. Gender: Male Where Born: Layer De La Hay Civil parish: Layer De La Hay County/Island: Essex Country: England Street address: Lower End Education: Employment status: View image Occupation: Ag Lab Registration district: Lexden Sub registration district: Stanway ED, institution, or vessel: 3 Neighbors: View others on page Household Members: Name Age Joseph Demon 50 Mary A. Demon 46 Ruben Demon 26 Maud Gooch 4 View Original Record View original image julie

Here's his birth: Births Mar 1855 Goodey Reuben Lexden 4a 253 Rose

and in 1861 Name: Ruben Demmond Age: 6 Estimated birth year: abt 1855 Relation: Son Father's name: Joseph Mother's name: Mary Ann Gender: Male Where born: Layer De La Hay Civil parish: Layer de la Hay County/Island: Essex Country: England Street address: Occupation: Condition as to marriage: View image Registration district: Lexden Sub-registration district: Stanway ED, institution, or vessel: 3c Neighbors: View others on page Household schedule number: 28 Household Members: Name Age Joseph Demmond 29 Mary Ann Demmond 25 Ruben Demmond 6 View Original Record View original image julie

found this Name: Reuben Goodey Year of Registration: 1855 Quarter of Registration: Jan-Feb-Mar District: Lexden County: Essex Volume: 4a Page: 253 (click to see others on page) julie

From IGI: JOSEPH DEMMOND Marriages: Spouse: MARY ANN GOODEY Family Marriage: 07 DEC 1856 Layer De La Haye, Essex, England Rose

Parents' marriage: Marriages Dec 1856 Demmon Joseph Lexden 4a 538 Goody Mary Ann Lexden 4a 538

So Reuben was originally known as Goodey because he was born a year or so before his parents got married.

Wow you guys work fast that's fantastic thankyou, i now know who Reuben married, would anyone know why he would be recorded twice under two names on the same census? Can any of you find him on the 1891 census, or a death record, i'm sure he never moved from Layer. Thankyou all so much for your help so far.xx

1891 Reuben Gooday Age: 36 Estimated birth year: abt 1855 Relation: Head Spouse's name: Elizabeth M Gender: Male Where Born: Layer De La Haye, Essex, England Civil parish: Layer de la Haye Ecclesiastical parish: St Alban Town: Layer de la Haye County/Island: Essex Country: England Street address: Occupation: Condition as to marriage: Education: Employment status: View image Registration district: Lexden Sub registration district: Peldon ED, institution, or vessel: 17 Neighbors: View others on page Household Members: Name age Ada Gooday 8 Edward W Gooday 5 Elizabeth M Gooday 31 Reuben Gooday 36 View Original Record View original image

Deaths Jun 1895 Goodey Edward William 9 Colchester 4a 315

Can't find a death for Elizabeth Demmond/Demmon/Demon between 1891 and 1901; there is a death for an Elizabeth Goodey of the right age, but it's in Oxford. Reuben's death's probably too recent to be on FreeBMD; you'll have to trawl the complete index on Ancestry, quarter by quarter.

Mary, you are obviously far more experienced than me at this research stuff, i've only been doing this stuff for a few weeks, Reuben is listed on the 1901 census as a widow still living in Layer, Ada is listed as a lodger in the neighbouring house to him,i suppose Elizabeth could have left him to go to Oxford , i only live a couple of miles from Layer so i think i'm going to take a trip up there over the next few days to look around the graveyard and maybe check out the parish records.