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How can my mum be like that ???

Just phoned her for our usual 'how are you chat' ........ she sounded strained - I asked if she was ok and she said .....

'No - I find it hard to accept what you and *C* (my bro) are doing, both moving away - I'm very hurt'

I asked why on earth she was hurt - we just want a better life each before it's too late - nothing to do with wanting to be apart from her.

She just sort of 'humpffed' and said 'what did you want?'

I said I was just ringing for a chat like normal and she said 'oh right - well as long as Ireland's not mentioned cos I don't want to know!'

I'm ashamed to say I terminated the call and now i am crying my eyes out and I know she will be too.

I know it's hard for her but how can she be like that ???

Anne....she is just worried about being lonely.....when the time comes and she has got used to it she will be fine......

aw hun shes just hurting coz she feel like she is loosing her baby (no matter how old u r u always gona be her baby)

i no mine r still young but every milestone they make without needing me breaks me heart as well as makign me proud

she loves u babes and she is hurting

give her time

Anne she will come to terms with it just give her time.

Will she be able to visit you when you move? Maybe you can make a big thing of it and say how much you will both enjoy these visits.

Sending you a big ((((((( hug)))))))))

Linda x

Hi McAnne, sorry to say but Mums can be very selfish,been there done it and came out the other side, you have to follow your own path in life and not let her put you off.

Don't cry get back on the phone and talk.xxx

She's just like any mum who finds it hard to lose her children even if they are grown up. My son moved quite a way off and I felt dreadful for awhile. I started to feel much better when we visited him and saw how happy he is and the home he is living in. Your mum will come round when she gets over the upset. Don't feel bad for hanging up - anyone would have done the same.
Sue xx

She feels redundant hun. Wait till she sees the chance of a holiday in such a beautiful country...

she is just frightened of losing you Anne,

its hard for them to accept the older they get i suppose,

huge hugs for you both, your lucky to have a mum that cares so much :o)))))

xxLynnxx

Anita .....thak your lucky stars its not my Mum.....she would pay for my ticket...

OH B*M ...mus can be such a pain at times !!!!

i,m sure she will come round in the end and things will turn out for the best !!

take care ....put kettle on .....

This is going to sound harsh but whatever you do don't let her make you feel guilty.

She loves you and doesn't want to lose you but you have your own life to lead. She will come around eventually.

Wish I had moved away when I had the chance but stayed local to my mother and I regret it.

Jean x.

now i got a grandaughter and daughter of my own i can see it from mams side, and we had some rows over it,

yours is hurting mcanne
she feels like shell be so alone, shell miss you dreadfully
and im sure shes scared too just a bit,
i send you hugs,
all i can suggest is take her with you if thats option
or get her to visit lots and lots

Teresa, what a lovely reply! (Well, so are the other replies, but you know what I mean).
Anita, as a Mum myself, I agree with everyone else. I'll probably be the same with my daughter, as will hubby ................
x

It's because we spend a lifetime loving and looking after and worrying about our children.

It's because we need them to be close by...just as you needed to be close to your mum when you were little. It's because as we grow older, we feel we want our family to be around, nearby, to look out for us, to drop in sometimes, to chat, shop and laugh with us.

Maybe you (and others) will say that's a selfish attitude, and perhaps it is. But you asked why your mum was "being like that", and I'm telling you....

....from a mother's point of view.

Dee
x

crikey...am I the only mum?? I keep telling mine what a better life they could have elsewhere in another country with the qualification they have,,plus I want my grandchildren to have the best life possible,,,,,,,,,,I keep telling them emigrate,,,,,,,,,,its them that wont leave me,,,,!!!


Anita,,,please dont let anything if possible spoilt the life you have planned for yourself,,even it for a short time it hurts others,,,,,

Last year my son said they were thinking of going to Aus (already have one son there) I felt physically sick when we heard and though I didn't show it I could have yelled at him for causing such pain even though I knew it was for a better life and I was being selfish. I know we would have accepted it eventually but we were losing a much loved son and family. However my dil fell pregnant (in fact had a baby boy last Tues aw!) and I think the idea has been put on the back burner so to speak and boy am I pleased BUT if they do decide to go I shall grin and bare it but god they will be missed. So don't fall out with your Mum Anne she will come round and good luck on your move
Norah

Awwwwwwww don't know what to say...... but I'm sure she'll learn to accept it in time.

Sending you a (((hug))) in the meantime though xx

Oh, by the way - Anita, you ARE going to Ireland! :-)
x

oh no i starting to cry now

i feel so sad i never ---------
nope ill start rest of you off

as a mam i tell meine to do what they dream of with their lives,
if they wana study do it now, they young,
daughter wanted to go back working with kids
i said go for it
son not sure about uni now,
i said you do waht you be happy doing, and waht you always want,
im proud of you waht ever,

but i just got this side of me that takes in guilt, and dont ever want mine to feel like that

mcanne, shell come round im sure,
go phone her, and tell her you love her
cos you do