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How does lighting affect drugs? Would love to know so that we can implement it here!
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Errol, I'm about to scold you severely.
Women grow up learning not to trust their instincts, to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, in short, to be NICE.
I was nice to the guy who picked me and my boyfriend up hitchhiking many years ago. I didn't want to stay with the ride when my boyfriend got out at Toronto (we were going to school in different cities), because the driver was unspeakably boring and kinda weird. But it would have been *rude* for me to get out and then thumb another ride, so I stayed.
I am lucky to be alive. I was not the first woman the man had abducted and assaulted that weekend. I was likely going to be the first one he killed -- I can't think of any other reason we might have gone "for a walk" in the woods in an abandoned quarry in the middle of nowhere.
All women have had similar experiences, if less traumatic and dangerous. We are not supposed to be suspicious of men -- oh, well, we're supposed to be suspicious of *men*, but every individual man is supposed to get the benefit of the doubt.
There could be all sorts of weird and wonderful explanations for what was going on in that cubicle. All of them require suspension of disbelief to the point of absurdity.
I find it hard to believe that there is no criminal law in England that would apply to an adult male using a women's washroom to surreptitiously watch children or women engaged in activities that expose their genitals to view and that, in themselves, are sources of sexual excitement for some people.
On its face, that is what the situation was. If there was an innocent explanation, he would have been at complete liberty to offer it. Just as I would be if store security caught me walking out of the store with merchandise I hadn't paid for. I would expect to be stopped and questioned in that case, not monitored by CCTV as I left the store because, well, I might just have forgotten to pay.
The kind of behaviour described here is indeed traumatic to women and children who suffer it; it obviously makes the victims feel *unsafe*, to have their privacy intruded on in that way.
And good on Linda for going with her gut and not letting the conditioning to be ladylike and not have a suspicious mind overcome the need to protect vulnerable people from this kind of behaviour.
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Hi Kathryn,
Thanks for that.
What a terrible experience to have had.
I did notice one thing that Errol said
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'Although it was correct to alert security, it is wrong to make assumptions based merely on the fact that a person was seen on their knees with no other evidence' UNQUOTE
The fact was it wasn't a just a person it was a man.....and yes they do have special lighting in a lot of public toilets now so that people can't do drugs. it's coloured a special blue and makes it almost impossible for them to see their veins..apparently it's very effective.
Thank goodness the police took it much more seriously and have filled out a report and put it on the computer. At least now if it happens again they will have my report. They said normally when this sort of thing happens in the shopping centre the store will inform the police but as of 10pm last night that had not happened.
No offence to young people but I think the two lads that I saw just didn't seem to think it was much of a problem. Not their fault, just probably badly trained.
Perhaps they thought like Errol......no offence Errol....I might want computer help sometime lol
Thanks for your kind good wishes Sally, I shall pass them on to Richard.
Have a good weekend everybody
Linda
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this is awful good on you linda i would have done the same this sort of thing needs reporting he could have also been a bag snatcher looking for a quick money fix?i would have made as much noise as possible to get attenion
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