General Chat

Grandparents are such a valuable part of the family - mine were lovely - now as great-grandparents we were all thrilled with the 4-generation photographs, and my granddaughter had a special print made of the 4-generation photograph taken when she was born (and incidentally asked about putting her son on my family tree!). They all I think value the extra dimensions to the family, and it is really sad when the grandparents don't realise the value of these additions they themselves started

Very sad indeed - the agony & ecstacy of motherhood.

My daughters baby has not met her grandparents on her fathers side.....She split up with boyfriend when she found out she was expecting. The babies father is now involved with the baby but his father wants a DNA test first (even though baby is the spitting image of her dad) and his mother has said she has a granddaughter, she doesn't need another.

Daughter has said she doesn't want anything to do with them now....their loss.

Mind you it would be difficult sorting out xmas visits with four separate grandparents over two days

Thats good really

who would want someone in their lives that is so heartless Family is about loving and sharing not excluding some and not others

lol Shirley, 'state visit'. :-D oh well there's nowt as queer as folk!! x

That very sad but its her loss!!

we are grandparents and grt grandparents and very much involved with them all/

Even our 5 year old grt grandaughter rang Big grandad as he is known (I am Big Nanny) to ask if he was OK after he had a fall and spent the night in hospital .

We get BIG hugs and kisses when they visit .

Even our step grandson who has learning difficulties gives us big hugs and says i missed you when he visits .

When we were young though we too had one gran who was the cuddly gran but the other one was very haughty and only paid a state visit every 4 years of so and her grunt of acceptance when you said hello grandma was very reluctantly given .
This too was from family matters she took umbrage too way before mum and dad married in 1929!!

I suppose so Ginnie. I dont live too near her so I wouldnt even expect anything from her, babysitting etc. Always coped alone as not had family anywhere near. Would have been nice if she'd just acknowledged her grandchildren/Godchildren really, we didnt expect anything more from her. Having our own little party when he clears off to his mothers, food, dancing and fun :)

It's a mystery to me, I only had one grandparent alive when I was born but she was a loving one although she was a bit of a matriarch.
My children had grandparents that were very involved and they thought the world of them.
My own grandchildren only have us, we are with 2 of them every weekend the others live abroad now so it's more difficult but all still speak via skype and emails. We are very family minded people but not everyone feels that way.

How sad, but remember she is the one missing out. Don't let it get you down. Have a great Christmas with hubby and kids, they are most important.
:-) :-)
Maddie

My own grandparents (mums dad and stepdads parents) were amazing, loving and lovely. I miss them. But my children arent so lucky with half their grandparents not seeing them. I dont understand it - when I have grandkids, if Im lucky enough, I'll love them so much. Husbands mother is having a party (nobody's mentioned her for so long I forgot she was alive) but not invited us. Husband will still go, me and kids wont. Best thing about it is, she left her kids when they were young and still took the child benefit, meaning my husband had to help support the family at a young age. I asked her to be Godmother to the kids, hoping to get her to be more involved, she has nothing to do with us! Bizarre. Apart from random messages on facebook about how proud she is of her OTHER son for racing a bike, we'd forget she exists. I dont understand how people can cut children from their lives yet expect everyone to respect and worship them on demand.