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Sad when grandparents turn their back on grandkids
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RStar | Report | 15 Dec 2013 14:19 |
My own grandparents (mums dad and stepdads parents) were amazing, loving and lovely. I miss them. But my children arent so lucky with half their grandparents not seeing them. I dont understand it - when I have grandkids, if Im lucky enough, I'll love them so much. Husbands mother is having a party (nobody's mentioned her for so long I forgot she was alive) but not invited us. Husband will still go, me and kids wont. Best thing about it is, she left her kids when they were young and still took the child benefit, meaning my husband had to help support the family at a young age. I asked her to be Godmother to the kids, hoping to get her to be more involved, she has nothing to do with us! Bizarre. Apart from random messages on facebook about how proud she is of her OTHER son for racing a bike, we'd forget she exists. I dont understand how people can cut children from their lives yet expect everyone to respect and worship them on demand. |
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Maddie | Report | 15 Dec 2013 14:31 |
How sad, but remember she is the one missing out. Don't let it get you down. Have a great Christmas with hubby and kids, they are most important. |
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JustGinnie | Report | 15 Dec 2013 14:36 |
It's a mystery to me, I only had one grandparent alive when I was born but she was a loving one although she was a bit of a matriarch. |
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RStar | Report | 15 Dec 2013 14:41 |
I suppose so Ginnie. I dont live too near her so I wouldnt even expect anything from her, babysitting etc. Always coped alone as not had family anywhere near. Would have been nice if she'd just acknowledged her grandchildren/Godchildren really, we didnt expect anything more from her. Having our own little party when he clears off to his mothers, food, dancing and fun :) |
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Shirley~I,m getting the hang of it | Report | 15 Dec 2013 15:11 |
That very sad but its her loss!! |
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RStar | Report | 15 Dec 2013 15:14 |
lol Shirley, 'state visit'. :-D oh well there's nowt as queer as folk!! x |
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KempinaPartyhat | Report | 15 Dec 2013 15:33 |
Thats good really |
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jax | Report | 15 Dec 2013 15:47 |
My daughters baby has not met her grandparents on her fathers side.....She split up with boyfriend when she found out she was expecting. The babies father is now involved with the baby but his father wants a DNA test first (even though baby is the spitting image of her dad) and his mother has said she has a granddaughter, she doesn't need another. |
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Dermot | Report | 15 Dec 2013 15:56 |
Very sad indeed - the agony & ecstacy of motherhood. |
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Elizabeth2469049 | Report | 15 Dec 2013 15:59 |
Grandparents are such a valuable part of the family - mine were lovely - now as great-grandparents we were all thrilled with the 4-generation photographs, and my granddaughter had a special print made of the 4-generation photograph taken when she was born (and incidentally asked about putting her son on my family tree!). They all I think value the extra dimensions to the family, and it is really sad when the grandparents don't realise the value of these additions they themselves started |
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RStar | Report | 15 Dec 2013 16:10 |
Jax, thats unbelievable, her saying she already has a granddaughter and doesn't need another....absolutely heartless. At least they have you!! Your profile photo is lovely. Kempina, yes I suppose that's true and I hadn't thought of it like that :-) I wish there was a 'like' button to press for each post like facebook has, I'd be liking Elizabeths and Dermot's too, all voices of reason. Well I feel better now getting that off my chest lol. :-D |
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LaGooner | Report | 15 Dec 2013 16:16 |
I have 11 Grandchildren, 7 of whom are not my blood relations but I love them all just the same. All of them get exactly the same love and affection and I would not be without any of them |
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Kay???? | Report | 15 Dec 2013 16:53 |
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+++DetEcTive+++ | Report | 15 Dec 2013 17:08 |
It is so sad when a grandparent's 'dislike' of the spouse can spoil any relationship they could have with the grandchildren. |
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Joeva | Report | 15 Dec 2013 18:12 |
A subject so close to my heart...............I can't begin to write about ... |
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Island | Report | 15 Dec 2013 19:35 |
I only knew two grandparents - one from each side - the others died long before I was born. I rarely saw either of the live ones let alone have an idyllic grandparent/grandchild relationship and we all lived in the same town! I never felt rejected by them as I knew no difference. |
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SueCar | Report | 15 Dec 2013 19:57 |
Two things I can add to this: |
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Merlin | Report | 15 Dec 2013 21:57 |
Don,t always blame the Grandparent.There are sometimes good reasons for having no contact with grandchildren,. :-( |
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Dermot | Report | 16 Dec 2013 08:41 |
'Children's children are a crown to the aged'. (Proverbs 17 v 6.) |
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PollyinBrum | Report | 16 Dec 2013 11:20 |
My son has three step daughters. OH has two grandsons and three step grandchildren, so despite having no biological offspring's I am now knee deep in grandchildren. I love them all they all love me, its exhausting and totally amazing they bring so much joy and unconditional love into our lives. I have actually woke in the night laughing at some of there comments. <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 |