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Yes I think I have it nooooooooo I am know I have it I am blessed :-D

I honestly don't think anyone can appreciate what it is like living wth someone wit NPD, my son was almost a shadow of the man he was whilst he was married to her. They worked together for nine years, and she was vile in front of the staff, no one liked her, she would have rages, then burst into tears. She would take no responsibility in the day to day running of the business. My son and his new wife have been extremely supportive to her over all of her broken retationships. If she did not get her own way she would leave the office in tears. She woul turn everything to her advantage and would blame everyone else, she would always make herself the victim. I honestly don't know how he lived and worked with her for so long. He has gone through a tough couple of months, hopefully it will all be behind him now.

Is that poor little boy in touch with his father at all? Do you know his father?

He needs to be able to save his son from that.

It is so hard to get help because nobody wants to acknowledge it's existence and it is so very hard to articulate. Also, unless you have lived with it you can't begin to imagine it even happens.

Paula + I understand where you are coming from, Sadly I married some one like that,I stood it for 19 years(Because we had a Son) I had to get out of it or,????.It cost me a Fortune, Plus the Loss of My son Who was indoctrinated as to what an evil person I was,It hurts even now,howerver I just get on with my life and try to empathise with others who have this problem.**M**.

Thank you Merlin, as I have said to you before my son is a very decent kind man, she treated him dreadfully and blames him for everything, she will never be able to keep a relationship. I am just so relieved he is out of it.

Thank you Merlin, as I have said to you before my son is a very decent kind man, she treated him dreadfully and blames him for everything, she will never be able to keep a relationship. I am just so relieved he is out of it.

The worst thing that I had to endure(And still cannot understand) is why my Mother (Who never did anythinjg for me"I was raised by my Grandma"sent me a letter 6 months before she died) saying "I Hate you, and wish you had never been born" I am at a loss as to why,as she never ever did anything for me ,except give birth to me. :-S :-S

People can be so hurtful but why a Mother would want to hurt her own child is something I will never be able to understand.

All I can say is that if I could pass on just a fraction of the love my mother gave to me I would.

All children, whatever their age deserve parents who love them, warts and all. <3 <3

Kitty, My Grandma was of the same ilk, she oozed love to all her family.**M**.

It's the special people in our lives we will always love and remember. Thank God for their love. <3

I was blessed with both parents and both sets of uncles aunties and grandparents. <3

I am still close to the surviving aunts and uncles, maybe it's more a generation thing, plus no-one has moved too far away from the area.

xx

NPD starts in childhood by the time they are an adult its become part of their personallity,,,,,

the spoilt child,
the spiteful child,
the demanding child.
the me me me child,
the selfish child.
and the child who will lie and cheat their way out of or into a situation.

then there is the child who is desperatly seeking to be loved that that desperation stays with them for life preventing them from showing love to anyone,,,,,,,they crave for something they never had,,,one big vicious circle....

women arent the only ones to have NPD----men can be just as bad,

Kay Sometimes its not as simple as that, Mine Stemmed from ww2.the love I had was from my Grand mother, From my Mother Nothing.The only thing I wonder about (And I will never Know) Is Why? :-(

Kay you have just described my ex DIL perfectly.

Merlin,

Grandmothers can shower their grandchildren with so much devotion that they couldnt show their own child,,,,,,.a grandparent doesnt have to comply to the full reponsibility of emotion,,,,but demand full emotional cooperation from their own child.

I took a course in NPD behaviour,,,,,,,there are many paths it follows.In most the actions never go beyond teen years,but some by nature it will stay for life.

NPD traits are not learnt they are there and situations will make it rear its ugly head.

"she shows more love to my children than she ever shown me." these words are in daily use.

If your mother said to you, when you were sixteen........

"You're attractive enough, but you're not as pretty as I was at your age"

Is it any wonder I spent my teenage years a wee bit unhappy?

:-(

How about getting ready to go out and the parting shot at the door, in a very caring voice of course, being "You look awful."