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Met my hubby at 18 and married at 20'.he is my best friend and we have been married now for 56 plus years

Maybe I would like to have been less hard on our daughter, everything to me then was black and white so she was expected to be perfect . She loves me to bits but does say she was a bit frightened of me at times as she didnt want to incur my verbals .that hurts now cos no way would I want to have hurt or demeaned her

wouldn´t have married OH no2 at the age of 63 after 20 years of being single.
We were happy enough living together, but for some reason, since we married, it has all gone pear shaped.

feel the same as you Shirley - think I was a bit hard at times - I love him to bits, he's my life and I'd die for him, but I just couldn't cope

All over again?

I would completely ignore any "advice" given to me by my parents :-(

Shirley.. You did what you thought best for your daughter at the time. When you look at her now you know you did a good job bringing her up

Wisechild.. I'm sorry that things have changed for you after marrying, it's not what we expect to happen. I hope you manage to get some time away from him.

I too am satisfied with my life, not with some of the things I went through to get where I am now but with the way I handled all the obstacles and rubbish I had to get past on the way here.

Thought long and hard about this.
Two things I may have done differently.
1) Perhaps instead of stay8ing with my (then) boyfriend, now ex, I should have gone out with Jon, when asked. His dad owned quite a few big hotels in Southern Ireland.
2) Should have stopped working for Hampshire County Council the first time they screwed me over job-wise. Then, perhaps I wouldn't be as ill as I am now :-|

I think that we all look back and think 'what if ' but if we did change the past we would most likely still look back and 'what if ' .

Hopefully we do the best we can at the time.

Would my life have been better if I hadn't listened to my mother so much, I don't know and never will . My life so far has been very good and I plan to be here at lot longer. :-D :-D

I would never have started using permanent hair dye :-( :-(

I need my roots doing far too often these days :-D :-D :-D

Maggie.. Any idea where Jon is now? Is it too late? Lol :-D
It's sad when work makes you ill you have to spend so much of your life there.

JustGinnie, if we could have done things differently I bet there would still have been things we may have changed given the chance.

Solrosen..sometimes I wish I hadn't started my family tree! As you and I share a big branch you will know what I mean. Did you get the photo I added to a pm? xx

Hi TS
I do indeed! I received your photo and I'll be sending you one later - similar theme
Nice here today so hoping to have the afternoon out! xx

Tenerife, I've tried to find him on Facebook, but his name's too common :-(

As for work - I'm one of the unfortunates who thought they were retiring at 60 - only to be told 2 years ago, that it's 66 :-P

I have had a very good life and I wouldn't change anything in it. I suppose I could wish my Mum was not so 'victorian' and was more demonstrative/affectionate. And not so straight laced. However, I know she loved both us girls as did my dad, she just didn't show it so much when I was a child. Following on from that and having seen how children are brought up now (excluding those who rule the roost but meaning how calm my Grand daughter in law is with her little one). I look back and I know I was not good with mine, I copied my parents, I was quite strict and expected them to 'obey'. Which they mostly did. And to be fair, they have never complained since and we are very close. Just in my head I wish I had done better.

However as far as my personal life goes, I could not wish for a better OH, 54 years in August and still love him to bits. :-)

I don't think I would change anything really.

My life has had it's ups and downs, the ups gave me strength for the downs, the downs always had some good come out of them.

I am who I am today because of my past, I am happy and blessed with a loving family, so all in all I am happy to be me :-D

Difficult question TS.

I sometimes think I should have gone to university after school and gone for a "proper" career. Instead after A Levels I did a secretarial course and then got a degree with the Open University in my 40s.

BUT, and it's a big But, if I had been at uni at age 19 I wouldn't have met my OH and my whole life would have been different.

So, an occasional regret but would I change what I've got now? Nah!

Just found this thread that I started in 2014 and realised that not one reply was from a man.

Does this mean they are all happy with the way their lives have turned out :-)

Funny that TS. As an experiment I just asked OH and his answer was "I would still like to have had the opportunity to become a surgeon". We have talked about this before but with a mother who wasn't interested in education for her children and a family attitude of "That's for posh people.. We're working class and proud of it", he didn't stand much of a chance.

He's brilliant at dissecting machines and getting to their fiddly innards but I'm not sure I would want to let him loose on a human being ;-)

Maybe with a little more training he could have moved up to humans.

It's such a shame that he wasn't given the encouragement he needed at the right time in his life.

I would not change anything. The reason being that any change, however slight, before I married would completely change my subsequent life and would certainly mean my children would not exist.

Of course there are many things I should have done differently but I am glad I didn't.

I would of tried harder at school and tried to make something of myself

Moved away from the area that i am now

But i didn't do any of that from my first marriage i have two lovely children

Hubby was no good

From my second marriage two lovely children and me and hubby been together 24 years

I would not have had my son as he disowned us because he doesn't like his roots and is a gold digging Mr Bouquet and it is not the way we brought him up.