General Chat

If George Clooney has a tie just like mine, he must have been in the same Regiment. By the way, all my comments regarding my marriage are all tongue in cheek. My wife can give as good as she gets and we often bounce off each other. We have had some funny looks in shops when we are in good form. Bob

Keep saying ignore isnt helping ,it just impounds the childish problem,while anyone can stay in silent mode towards someone they care about,then take up to speaking when they feel enough punishment has been dished out and then expect to carry on as though nothing as happend, is abuse of someones feelings.

I dont have space in my life for such uncaring, dramatic, inflictions on purpose.

I can see the resemblance immediately - George has got a tie just like yours!!!

Oh, I almost forgot, I am frequently mistaken for George Clooney. Bob (the liar!)

My wife would be wasting her time threatening to stop cooking. She is an awful cook and I do most of it. I can also iron, and I do a lot of the housework. I am almost perfect really!!! We have been married nearly 35 years and rub along quite nicely. Bob

Don't speak to him at all when he arrives home drunk - ignore him.

Wisechild I realise that it isn't easy to leave and go your own way even if you wanted to. Just do your best to completely ignore him. Xx

I feel for anyone in such a cruel, selfish situation, and my dad wasn't much better either.

I thank my lucky stars that I have a kind, caring and sober OH.
He's not tee-total but very rarely has a drink, and is always the self appointed, designated driver.... even on Christmas Day!
He has a drink only after everyone has been taken home.

With the new, reduced drink driving law in Scotland, even one glass of wine with his meal would put him over the limit anyway.

I'm with Kay!

I feel for you, my o.h. is a bit like that, but usually falls asleep soon after a tirade and is all smarmy when he wakes, which is when I go into silent mode. One of these days....hurry up lottery win, so I can tell him where to stick his temper.

Take care, don't let him get you down if you can help it

Lizx

I'd be asking myself,


*What the hell am I doing with this man* and making a new years resolution to make serious changes,as he seems so uncaring toward you.


find a place back in the UK.

I'd be tempted to say 'when you feel like talking, maybe I'll feel like cooking.......and washing, and ironing again'. My OH is too cheerful and chatty to do 'silent'. My dad was a master at it though and could keep it up for as long as 3 weeks, with us children relaying messages. Him and mum are buried in different counties!

My father was like that.

As children, sitting around the dinner table, he'd say "tell your mother...... " and she'd be at the other end of the table.

This would go on for months, until he finally spoke to her, usually saying "are you ready to apologise now?" We never could work out what she had to apologise for.

She left him after 30 years of marriage, and I helped her move out!

He was a selfish, self-centred B!

If my wife decides not to talk to me, I say, well just let me know when you are. After this I ignore her completely, until she asks, are you not talking to me! I can't win. Bob

My instinctive reply would have been "well clear it up then !!!!"

Cruel people lack compassion.

I would of replied

not as bleddin sick as I am :-( :-( :-(

can't think what to say, other than I would not be putting up with such childish behaviour

He came home on Saturday night at 1.30 am after a session with his mate & got all a***y because I complained that he had woken me up.
When he has too much to drink, he gets verbally abusive & isn´t very nice to know.
Following the usual pattern I knew he wouldn´t speak for 36 hours or so.
Sure enough. got the silent treatment all day Sunday. Never a suggestion of an apology.
First words to me this morning?

"The cat´s been sick"