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Stress
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Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond | Report | 9 Jan 2015 20:53 |
AnnMarie, that was my Mum all over and it rubbed off to me as a child. Somehow I seem to have changed in that I don't consciously worry as much but I think my hoarding problem stems from the anxiety, shyness, and lack of confidence I suffered. My parents never encouraged me to aspire to more than getting married and being a housewife and mother. I got that wrong, never married but ended up a single parent. I lost my first baby at 3 days of age which has also caused mental health problems including the hoarding and a grief that has never gone away even after nearly 41 years. There was little support at that time and my parents weren't that supportive either even tho my mother had a stillborn son before I was born. |
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AnnMarieG | Report | 8 Jan 2015 16:45 |
I have always been a 'worrier' My life has not been hard like some of you have said above although I have had my ups and downs as most have. I wish I was not a 'worrier' but cant help it. I even worry about my new twin grandchildren, like I never seem to have worried about my own children. It causes me to lose quite a lot of sleep at times. Don't suppose I'll ever change although I do try. :-S |
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maggiewinchester | Report | 8 Jan 2015 11:56 |
I don't think I am a 'stressful' person. |
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Sharron | Report | 8 Jan 2015 09:11 |
I have told about my childhood on too many occasions on here so I won't do the detail. OH also has a narcissistic mother,Fred, who had adopted a philosophy of not getting involved with my mother's vileness and who also later admitted to me that he was afraid of her, then gave me seven years of extreme challenge as well as lack of sleep. |
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Susan10146857 | Report | 7 Jan 2015 23:33 |
Have you told your story to GR press, Lavender......It would make a good programme ......so interesting and sad too. |
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Sylvia | Report | 7 Jan 2015 23:14 |
Lavender |
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lavender | Report | 7 Jan 2015 23:09 |
That's so well put, Annx :-D |
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Annx | Report | 7 Jan 2015 23:04 |
Anyone in a responsible stressful job won't just wind down straight away when they retire even if they handled the stress of the job well. A job like that is like an express train and the mind and body that is geared up to that level of performance and anticipation takes a good while to adjust however relaxed you think you are. |
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SheilaSomerset | Report | 7 Jan 2015 23:00 |
I would say generally 'inherited' although I'm sure circumstances and events can cause it - or is it that the events will only impact those pre-disposed to worry?? I take after my Dad as a 'worrier' and I'm sure it was extreme stress that sent him to an early grave... :-( |
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Purple **^*Sparkly*^** Diamond | Report | 7 Jan 2015 22:57 |
My late Mother would worry about everything, being overprotective especially towards me, less so my brothers. I used to tell her she would worry if she had nothing to worry about. Life was difficult for her, she was the baby of the family and lost her mother when she was just 16, so her older sisters and brothers and her Dad were her support. By then she was out to work, it was 1932. Her father gave up the family home at some stage and mother moved to the coast to work in a grocery shop International stores. She had a fiance who died of Tb. At the end of the war she met my Dad. They lost their first baby to stillbirth. They never had much money, lots of thing's were secondhand from friends and relatives. I don.t know if all these setbacks caused Mum's constant anxiety but it certainly rubbed off to me and I was always a timid, nervous child so it definitely affected me. Genes and upbringing equally affected me I think. |
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Rambling | Report | 7 Jan 2015 22:36 |
I was talking to someone recently, who had for a long time quite a stressful job, in a responsible role, and they mentioned that even though they are now retired their stress levels are still high and they "worry" more than their partner. |
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