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Hi, does anyone have an opinion on the wearing of hats in the house ?

My son in law insists on wearing a hat virtually all the time. At one point it was a beany type, now he constantly wears a baseball cap.

At least now they no longer live with us we don't have to look at him so much but last night we went out for a special occasion meal and he wore it all through dinner which was in a nice restaurant.

Now, one of our boys went through a phase like that when he was about twelve but at least he would remove it to eat, especially if his grandad was about !!

Our daughter doesn't like it but no matter what anyone says the hat remains. He has perfectly good hair as well, which he likes so is not trying to cover it up.

Oh by the way, it is pink .......

M. :-)

I'm afraid if it were me the cap would go 'missing' ;-) especially before any outing to a restaurant. It may be his equivalent of a comfort blanket? that it somehow makes him feel 'safe'. Depends on his age I guess, might be that he feels it makes him look younger, or cooler. :-D

There seems to be no etiquette on men wearing hats indoors now - let alone removing the hat when a lady enters the room. :-(

However, if someone doesn't take their hat and/or coat off when they come into my house, my mouth tends to come out with one of three comments:
'Are you going somewhere else?'
or
'You're not staying then?'
or
'More pressing engagement?'

This usually causes them some embarrassment, but I don't care!!
:-D

I would even say this to my very young grandsons if necessary - but they always take their hats, coats and wellies off :-D

Our grandsons always removed their caps in the house and these days rarely even wear them. I think with older males it is bad manners and they should respect your views in your house.

I would also warn him that constantly wearing a hat/cap is not good for his hair and will make his hairline recede. Indoors it makes his head sweat and is not healthy, also will make his hair/head smell. :-D

I'm with Maggie. How old is he MaryAnna?

Ok, two options of attack then.

Rose, I might offer him a teddy or bit of old blanket to cuddle.

Maggie, I like all your comments, I will give them all a try.

None of my hints or comments seem to sink in. Even if I actually say, " hats off at the table please " he usually ignores me.

Anything I say will cause raised eyebrows and a huff. He already thinks I am an old dragon !!!

He is also old enough to know better, nearly thirty. He says his hair won't fall out as there isn't baldness in his family. He needs to look closer at his own father.

We do point out that the son who had a thing about wearing a cap when younger is now bald. All the family, including his brothers used to tease him, he realised in the end how daft he looked and now laughs about it.

M.

Gross. For men and boys either hat/cap off or out of the door same rules in office.Anybody wearing a baseball cap all the time is prob. a chav and not to be taken very seriously.

We do of course allow headgear as required by faith. AFAIK being a policeman does not fall into this category.

There are people who can never be never parted from their headgear and I have never really understood why.

Old service berets were being worn to work when I was growing up and the men who didn't wear those wore caps, nearly all of them but it is those whose hat appears to be a part of their identity who puzzle me, particularly those who wear woolly ones, even in summer.

If you ever catch them somewhere where they just can't wear it they look like somebody else, like when you see somebody else with their glasses off.

Rollo, hit the nail on the head with the C word.

Sharron, you are right, when we were kids men always wore a hat, my Grandads always wore one, one a flat cap the other a trilby and dare I say it my Dad used to wear a bowler hat when he was a bank manager in the city, but never inside and they were always lifted to a lady.

I think next time I go round to them I am going to wear some sort of a ridiculous hat and keep it on.

M.

Wearing a silly hat sounds a brilliant idea, M :-D

For added emphasis, you could keep it off until you go inside :-D

Those who need to keep headgear on due to faith, reminds me, when I was in Saudi in the 1970's, every 'trendy' guy in the UK had sideburns.
.....as they did in Saudi - only it was frowned upon.
Many Kirby grips were used to hold the keffiyeh (headscarfy thing) in place whilst in the street.
As soon as they were in the house, the Kirby grips were surreptitiously removed, and the keffiyeh flipped back to expose the sideburns :-D

Terribly bad form!

The wearing of hats indoors often denotes a certain type of person, as suggested above.

Pink?
Are they making some sort of statement?

Recently I have twice, very gently, asked two young chaps to remove their woolly hats whilst in church. They have done so, very apologetically. I fear that with some folk, headgear is welded to their heads..... :-)

Now you know why I call those Baseball Hats "Plank Hats" as in thick as two short ones.Not removing your hat just shows you are ill mannered and ill bred.

Height of bad manners to me, but then I am from a generation where my wife would not dream of going into church without a hat!

We dressed smartly in black for funerals (no brown boots :-) ) too.

Thank you all, love your comments.

Yes Errol, it's pink . Apparently it has some logo on it that means something. Billionaire Boys Club ?????

M.

Maryanna - it's a clothes line (I mean line of clothing, not a thingy stretched between two trees for hanging your vestments out to dry) founded by Pharrell Williams.

Maryanna.Get yourself a pink baseball cap too and wear it .I bet your SIL won't want to be looking the same as his MIL :-D :-D.Turn it around and wear it backwards too :-D
One of my Daughters ex's used to wear a baseball cap on when he was here (even at the table) :-S :-S...Have to say he looked a right chav ....and he was.Thank goodness he is long gone now.
I now have my Son's girlfriend spending all day in her PJs :-S :-S.
As my Mum and Dad would have said " How Slovenly "

I have seen a photo of a council meeting in the 1920s - indoors of course, and everyone is wearing a hat. So I guess fashions and etiquette change.
B

how many people at the dinner table? get pink baseball hats for everyone :-D

On a Saturday, my mother would don the headscarf, pop in the fag and set off to do the shopping.

Home she would come, puffing yet another fag and carrying the bags that certainly contained a couple more packets and some very large bars of chocolate as well as anything else that might have caught her eye, even if we didn't need them.

On a good Saturday the mackintosh would come off although I do remember her walking about in a plastic one several hours later, but the headscarf would never be removed until she went to bed.

The outside world rarely saw her sans headscarf, wherever she went.

Nothing would induce me to wear a headscarf!