General Chat

I hope that you managed to get some (restful) sleep Shirley, comfortable in the knowledge that everything that could be done for your husband was done.

He was in the best possible since he left hospital. Spending some time at home with you, while you were able to hive him all the love and care that you could. Having time together while you both got ready to say your goodbyes.

Then some time at a Hospice, where he had round the clock care, just like you gave him at home, but with medical expertise too. Giving you time to see that all his needs were met while his pain was taken care of.

Condolences to you, know that you did everything that you could, and then some.

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I'm so very sorry to hear about your loss, Shirley.

Sending my condolences to you and your family <3 <3 <3

Sending my condolences to you Shirley and your family. <3 <3 <3

Oh Shirley, I am so sorry to hear this news. Condolences to you and all your family and may he rest in eternal peace <3 <3 <3

Sincere condolences to Shirley and her family.

Look after yourself Shirley xx

Dear Shirley

So very sorry to hear of this news.

My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

With deep respect,
Love from Elizabeth, EOS
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Oh Shirley, I was so sorry to read this news.

Sending my condolences and hugs to you and your family <3

Still in my thoughts Shirley and family. <3 <3

Shirley, you and you family are in my thoughts and prayers. xxx

Thinking of you Shirley at this sad time. You take care.

Carol <3

So sorry to read this, my love to Shirley and her family at this very sad time <3

Thank you all

We are in an odd place of denial at the mo

On Monday I had a call from the coroners office because as he was unable to consent to his medical needs his rights were terminated so they could medicate him , so his death has to reported to the coroner for a read through inquest. In the meantime they will issue an interim death cert so we can get on with what needs doing

Our daughter came up yesterday and we went to the hospice to collect his things . When they took him in by ambulance they took him in the bedlinen he was in the bed in and kept him on his pillow in the hospital bed . Seeing the pillow cracked me up and was very painful.
We had some lunch and them decided to make enquiries at the local funeral director we thought we would go with . They were very nice and we accepted the quote and then arranged his funeral ,

This morning I had a visit from the deacons wife and we had a nice chat and after she left I had to go shopping as was out of things like milk etc. I took his used meds in to the pharmacy to dispose of them

Did a shop and went back to the car and was backing out of the spot and got a tap on the window and told you have a flat tyre on the rear passenger side

Tried to ring the AA and didn't get through so decided to nurse the car to the local tyre place . Got there ok and they had to replace tyre cos it had a bulge as well as a big nail in it

£60 plus some time later I decided to still do my intended visit to the bank to inform them and was told you need his death cert , they made me an appointment for next monday

Drove home and parked up outside the house and sat in the car and had a sobbing cry

Have had a couple of glasses now of rose as I need it
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Oh Shilrey you are entiltled to shed an ocean of tears and if a couple + glasses are what you want then thats fine,,,,,,its a horrible and raw time for you just now and will be for some time to come adjusting your time and life to a different level.......in time .things wil come along that will make you smile ,a little jolt of a familiar that brings back a nice memory .sometimes it will make you sad,but I'm sure the happy memories will be in bucketsfull of your dear M,,,,,,,,,,.Bless you.
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Shirley I wish I could give you a big hug. <3

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It's awful, but you'll get through it - you'll find you go on to autopilot to begin with as there is so much to do, so many things to sort out and this will take up a lot of your time - it's when things die down and you take stock that things will hit you hard, but you have family and I'm sure they will be a great support to you and in time things will get better

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Cry as much as you need Shirley but be comforted knowing that you were loving to the end and made your hubby happy.

Thinking of you <3 <3

(((hugs))) xxx

I also wish I could give you a big hug Shirley. Bless you <3 <3