General Chat

Uzz well done for sharing, not because we needed to know, those who know you take you for what you are, a good kind person, a bit quirky but genuine and a good friend. But well done for sharing because you may help somebody else, paying forward the help you received. And while clearing your computer, you may well have subconsciously needed to clear your mind too. <3 <3 <3

Uzzi it is always good to share these things as you then realise you are not as alone as you thought you were.My scars have healed very well as I now have a very supportive and loving husband who is so unlike the first one who made the scars a whole lot deeper. <3

May I just say that I think it is through suffering that people come to greater understanding- of self and life in general.

You have worked through your difficulties and anyone judging you unfavourably
is sadly lacking in what you have gained.

Patience, tolerance and most importantly COMPASSION- which you are willing to help/share with other sufferers.

Be proud of yourself and may I congratulate you for the battles you have overcome

All the Best
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I didn´t put this up for sympathy or any congratulations didn´t I do well stuff. and to be honest I am a tad embarrassed with people sayling it, so I am sorry if I dont acknowledge you. I honestly thought I would delete the thread an nobody would know. But that didn´´t happen and the thread is here to stay, some of my secrets out there in the open for me to be judged. Once I cared that I would be found less and wanting, now well now I don´t really care, I will cry for awhile but then my finger creeps up and says stuff it :-D Judge me only if you know your glass house is safe.

and there I go again on the defence

Lagooner like yourself my mental scars used to be worst than anything physical, personally I would rather cut my throat then go through the mental abuse again, But I did it and I am here now a bit tatty around the edges at times but then that just frames my personality, If sometimes I am a tad sarcastic, or harsh so what, walk a mile in the shoes I had before you judge me.
So my fellow club mate, hold your head up and be proud, I am proud of you :-D

It just never occurred to me to self-harm like that, in fact I had never heard of it happening until it was reported that the Princess of Wales had done it.

Having said that, I did used to stick pins in my gums.

Uzzi, I think you are so brave for saying that. Years ago a friend of my daughters told me she self harmed in the same way as yourself. I had no idea as she is always so bubbly and smiling, on the outside such a happy girl. She had managed to stop doing it when she told me. She said she felt better for telling someone about it. Just shows that we never know what people have been/ going through and how much we can cover up.xx

Jacqui, your experiences, hard as they were to cope with, have made you the person we know and care about now. You have found strength to cope with your past from the love you receive now, and the respect too. The same with others who go through such difficult times, hopefully when they find love and support it helps build strength and self esteem and life can change for the better.
Knowing someone listens and cares makes a big difference.

Love

Lizxxx

To the world.

Hypnotherapy can be a big help in letting go of many of the mental scars.

We have all been in the same boat Uzzi. I still have scars physically as well as mentally courtesy of my so called Mother . The mental ones are the worst <3

Sharron is that to me or Lagooner or both :-D

You may not believe it but it really wasn't your fault you know.

Lagooner I would say welcome to the club, we have our own badges, I will say well done for joining us here.
I am proud of you as it takes a lot of courage to come forward like you have

Sharron Thank you, As you say if our talking about things can help just 1 other, then talk away.

I will say that yes I am still ashamed and embarrassed but I no longer cover my scars, They are part of what I am. ;-)

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3. Uzzi and Sharron from one who knows what it is like

You shared it because it is time and you are ready.

Maybe you are ready to stop grieving for what might, indeed should, have been.

I have always hoped that by sharing my experiences I have turned my negative into a positive for somebody else.

I was determined to be totally honest about how it was with my mother from the time she died and have been accused of being wicked for having done so.

Your sharing of self-harming will turn your negative into a positive as well. If just one other person can see they are not alone then you have done it.

You are probably right there Sharron in some ways, not in others, I think I know why I started to self harm and mother is never far from the equation. Why did I share this after so long Not sure. after all I can´t piss her off any more


Jemima , If I have helped just 1 person then all my insecurities about putting this post up are worth it .

Uzzi, I think you have put your finger on why you did it. The importance of what we do for propriety being greater than the importance of the feelings of a little girl.

<3 <3 <3

That was a very brave thing to do Uzzi.
I also suffer with periods of low-self esteem, and I know how low it can make you feel.

Although I have not done this myself, I do have members of my family who have self-harmed in the past.

Thinking of you Uzzi. Keep yourself strong. <3

Thanks Ladyscozz trust me on my strength now, I have friends that I can call and an amazing other half who knows all about me and loves me regardless. <3 <3