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Hi Mummycool


thank you for those kind words.


Yes, you are right. Several of us, including me, used to advise that one should try to stay around on the computer for about half-an-hour ............... and got villified for it by people who thought that was far too long to be expected to stick around, just in case someone wanted to check information!


I still think that is a good time period because it a) allows time for a helper to find the thread, and b) allows time for supplementary questions to be asked, BUT ........................................





sylvia

I dont reply to many as I dont know how to copy and paste. I replied to someone a few days ago asking for help trying to trace a death which could have been right (who knows).
I didnt expect a reply straight away but have been checking and now noticed he has deleted it, would have been nice for a thank you

jax

This a "thanks" to Cynthia. I know you're at it out there somewhere-herding all our strays for us. When I get a spate of (rather late) appreciation PMs I'm certain it's because of you.

It's just easier dealing with queries on a "semi-real" time basis. My memory ain't what it used to be.

But,all in all,no moans or groans-not my major loss.

Maureen

PS-Congrats.Sylvia!!!

Thanks Maureen. Yep, I'm a lost-sheep rounder upper!

Honestly, so many new folk are amazed at how quickly they get replies - they have just posted and walked away not realising that they can hold a 'conversation' with a helper if only they stayed around for a while.

Must admit, I do wonder how much GR is making out of all these new folk. Every single day, I am told by several people that they have only just joined and so are new to the site.

Occasionally I get one where they have been members for a while but never used the boards before, but most are new.....GR must be making a bomb!



When I have my 'naughty' head on, I often want to go back to those who haven't replied either on the thread or to my pm and say..."WELL, was the information useful or not?"


Luckily, I'm fairly placid! Cx.

Thanks for your input everyone.

Talking of new and not knowing how it works. It's not that long ago since I realised you can check to see if anything has been added since you last looked at a thread,so I do understand some just dont know how it all works.


Marion

MaureeninNY


Thank you!


xxxx

Actually, I am tempted to start deleting - clicking on my threads, have found one going back in time a few years with only my response and nothing else! :-)

It's not just on the threads there is sometimes no response from the poster.

I recently visited a remote ancient graveyard where I photographed headstones of people with unusual surnames and then offered to send the information to folk on GR who were researching that name.

I sent photographs of a headstone to one person who requested the information offered ..... no response or acknowledgement ... let alone thanks.

The other I sent a transcription of the headstone ... with the offer of the photographs ..... am still waiting for a response although I know the person opened the pm.

Don't think I'll be stravaigin round graveyards again.

I spent about two hours in a library looking for info for somebody. Only to be told 'oh yes I have that....grrrrr

I scanned pages and pages of my tree, sent it to two different people who had request information about Deamers, absolutely no thanks from either, I reckon Deamer researchers will have to jump through hoops to get anything out of me from now on.....

It's hard to understand some folk isn't it?

I really feel for those who have absolutely no clue as to how things work, but when people don't reply to pms when it is so obviously easy to do, I am baffled and would dearly like to go back and ask why they haven't responded. Unfortunately, I would probably gain the reputation of being part of the 'board police' which I have seen mentioned occasionally.

Can't win can we?? Cx.

I'm still laughing at one that was posted on Oct 2008, they did reply today as if it was yesterday lol.


Marion

Hi Cynthia
I am only just getting to grips with the boards and still am not sure about replying although I reply using the purple button at the top left corner. Is this the way to do it or can I send a reply to each person separately because I would hate to be thought of as rude!
ps now you know why I use dizzymare!

Patricia, you're doing just fine - you've just replied! It's preferred that you reply on the boards as some helpers aren't keen on private messages. Cx.

Thanks Cynthia for those encouraging words and you are all appreciated!!

I have been helped quite a lot by kind folk on here since I joined just over a year ago and have always replied showing my appreciation. I get such a buzz when the replies come in and can't understand why anyone would post a query and then leave their computer for a long time. What's the point of posting when you can't wait for replies? I have to say, though, I have posted a couple of queries and got no replies at all. This made me despondent and I waited for about a week and then deleted the posts. Perhaps I shouldn't have done that, but if anyone did try to help but couldn't find anything, it would have been helpful if they'd put on a quick post to say so or perhaps suggest what else I could do.

Wendy, I think it's because people are expecting to receive an email alert from GR to let them know that someone has replied to them. Unfortunately, this doesn't happen. I know this because of the number of messages I receive expressing just that. Cx.

I think people think they will get an email if someone replies. I have MS and thats how it work on that site if someone replies if they send a private message you dont get anything....strange that

jax

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Hi all

I expect some do think they will get an email, there would be a lot of email going about if it worked that way though.