Genealogy Chat

Yesterday I received a reply to a message I sent out to someone to advise them that they had received replies. It stated:


"Thanks Cynthia, but it was only an automated reply from GR letting me know that it was an old post I had replied to."


So I now have Flick down as a robot!!

Cx.

Well, I have just seen two postings, one on Chat, one on TTF, and I would not give them one bit of information, even if I could. The serious lack of manners is totally appalling.
Julia in Derbyshire

I haven't looked so have no idea which ones they are Julia ;-))

But going back to the first post on this thread......I look at it this way.

If I received a letter in the post which contained one sheet of paper with just the words "who did Joe Brown marry" written on it and nothing else, no *hello*, no name to reply to, just a return address. Would I really be expected to get a sheet of paper, write down the information required, put it in an envelope, put a stamp on the envelope and then walk to the post box to post the letter.......all without even knowing, who I am giving the information to nor why they want it???

No, I didn't think so!! So why do people do exactly that when they send a message to me through GR and think I'm going to give them the info???

Mary

Edit to add: I did once reply to someone who just asked "do you know who Joe Brown married" - "yes I do thank you". :-)))

Contrary Mary, I do so agree with you. So why do so many people rush to give them the I information they require???
Julia in Derbyshire

If I get a message which says ""who did Joe Brown marry"" I answer it. I don't send a sarcy reply or bin it. For all you know this is just the connection you may be have looking for.

My reply is polite, courteous and answers the question. What happens after that is up to the other member.

In all truth IGP, I normally do reply asking for more information from them........apart from that once when my mischievous mood overtook me lol.

I reply, addressing them by their name (or alias if that's all that's available), asking which Joe Brown in particular they are enquiring about, (I may have more than one in my tree), and any other questions I feel applicable to determine whether their Joe Brown is actually related to my tree or not, before giving out the info about who he married.

And then I *sign* it with my name.......so that hopefully they will address me by it if they can be bothered to come back!

If it's someone just fishing for info, they won't. If it's a genuine query they will.

Mary

Snap.....!

That is exactly what I do.