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need some positive thoughts and hugs!!!!
took my dad to hospital today for his hip replacement...seems they have found a prob with his heart which will be dangerous for surgery.....but there are few options...he can't walk again or he may die on the operating table...he's 80 and some may say he's a good age......but he's my DAD...i'm feeling so teary

Sorry to hear your dad has had setbacks to his surgery, but at least they are talking about there being options. Try to be optimistic, which I know is hard when it is your dad and try to keep his spirits up too.

Best wishes xx

((((((((((((bighug)))))))))) I hope you Dad is feeling well again soon, Oz Girl just remember he is in the best place with those that are able to care for him xxx

oh bless you i know how you feel really i do
after all he is your dad no matter how old he is
none of us want to lose our mums or dads under any circumstances
sending you a big hug x

My mother-in-law needed surgery for a broken hip at age 87 and we were told her heart was very bad and she may not make it. She came through with flying colours. I hope your Dad goes ok also.

Regards
Alison

Have they discussed an epidural + light sedation? That seems to be the a common alternative to a deep anesthetic.

hope all works out well.

Alison, thank you so much...you have given me hope!!!!!
Hayley, Annx and pollypoppet.....thank you too...he's all i've got so really tough for me right now

Sending you lots of hugs and positive thoughts.

I'm sure your Dad will be fine.

Best wishes,

Margot xx

It's very hard for you at the moment, but if you could speak to his surgeon and ask what other options they will consider for the anaesthetic.
Would they be able to give him medication for his heart and then carry out the surgery?
Loads of (((hugs))) to you and your dad, fingers crossed for a positive outcome.
Sue
xx

no DET dad found this out after i had left, so don't have any further details...and dad is a bit vague....coz he can at his age

sue and margot thank you

Sending you a (((((((hug))))) & positive thoughts

I'm sorry to hear this but it's amazing what elderly people can get through. I'll be sending lots of positive thoughts to you and your family. You'd be made very welcome on our Aussie thread.

Sue xx

Hi, so very sorry to hear about your lovely dad, back in the summer my mum had a fall and broke her hip then got a blood clot on the lung and the wonderful people on here got me through it, l really thought l was going to lose her but she got through it even though she has some other problems now but not connected to the fall.
I am sending you loads of positive thoughts and a big {{{{hug}}}} and as people told me.......make sure you look after yourself also, your dad needs you. x

{{{{{ Hugs }}}}

Keeping everything crossed for a positive out come .x

My very best wishes to your Dad and a hug.

Make sure you take a little time for yourself too

Barb xx

Of course you are upset and worried. he is your lovely Dad and 80 is not so old these days. Here is hoping that maybe they can sort his heart problem out and then do the op. Don't let him give up hope, miracles do happen. ((((((hugs)))))) for you and for him.

Ann
Glos

One of my patients husband had the same trouble and is around the same age. They gave him medication for his heart and then he had the op.
He is delighted with the results and wants the other hip done now.

Sending you a big (((hug))) and positive thoughts

Leanne
xxxx

AW Girl from Oz...... loads of ((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) for you and your dad.... I am sure that there will be something they can give him to help with his heart problem... and then an epidural or similar for the hip... I am sure that someone on the boards had an epidural for their hip surgery.

Good luck, stay positive... plaster a smile on your face, glue it in place, and before you know it, you'll start to feel better and the smile will be for real... it does work, I promise you! That will relax your dad, too........

Love

Daff xxxx

I am sure there will be a way around this - sending positive thoughts to you and your dear dad and (((((((((HUGS))))))) too.
Love Mary xx