General Chat

Maggie ,
I understand you completely.
I have a neighbour opposite me who has caused me unbelievable stress and worry.

His wife is under his control and she is now a prisoner in the house and getting dementia,but I used to take her out as he wouldn't .that was fine for a while but just after my husband died he was calling me in the night and let my tires down and when she came over in tears he came banging on my porch windows..I had the police ...and then he tried to strangle her...it's quite unbelievable.she was in my garden at 5.30 am in her slippers and nightie...it's a long story and not one that I needed just after losing my husband.
This is over 3 years ago.I made a log of it so I could refer to the dates.

He has fallen out with neighbours both sides,but every time I go to the front door I look at their house..he has cameras trained on the road and my house.
He recently upset the one next door saying they had taken 2 layers of bricks off the boundary wall.He is mad but the police can't do anything.
The poor chap that he accused died a few weeks later and had been so sick the wall was the last thing on his mind.
I never had problems with neighbours in my life till this...he is 77 years old and a very respectable neighbourhood of detached houses,I wish they would move,but I am used to it now and he isn't as good on his legs ..and I have some allies now which I didn't have....why are some people so offensive...they're obviously not very happy with their lives!....try not to let yourself get upset by it.difficult I know but ....!

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"he has cameras trained on the road and my house"

Is he allowed to do that? Shouldn't they be pointing on his front garden with everything else at the edge? Have a word with your local CPSO and see what they think. :-S

Brenda, that sounds awful.
My sister has a nasty neighbour – well he was vaguely acceptable until my sister’s husband died.
Amongst other things, he hammers on radiators, created a channel from his garden, so water flowed under the decking my sister’s side – and re-creates it every time she blocks it – so she used quick acting cement . He shouts at her, objects to her occasional DIY
He objected to my sister and brother in law building a summer house in their garden – despite having 3 really scruffy sheds of a similar size. He said she was using it as a B&B. It was being used by my bother in law, during the daytime, in his dying days.
The final straw came when he put CCTV up both front and back. Not only did this capture everything that went on in my sister’s garden, but also the gardens of people one and two doors away – who had children. The police were called, and he had to put a screen on the side of the camera, so he can’t see into anyone else’s garden.

His final attempt at bar steward of the decade was to object to my sister removing her old conservatory, and replacing it with a slightly newer one. The reason? It covered an air brick on MY SISTER’S wall???? An air brick that was blocked on the inside, and had been for years.

Fortunately(?) he's peed off quite a few in the street, so no-one's on his side.

It made me laugh when my neighbour said 'everyone in the street' had complained about my leylandii (which don't affect the pavement, just have some long bits on top).
Most of the other people on the street (and those caught in the bus while the son has a major strop and shouting session with the bus driver as his car is in the way) have asked if there's anything 'wrong' with him.

My sister's neighbour, like my neighbour and wife etc feel a lone woman is ‘easy pickings’. I’m sure if it had been a man who parked there, they wouldn’t have come out en masse to have a go.

As Det says, ask the police about the cameras.

Give them a Boro kiss and a left hook hun ;-) ;-)

Eeeh Joy, I'll just give him aural interference by power tool :-D

He thinks my garden should be decimated to look as cr*p as his 'nice sterile, soulless pile of breezeblock & decking' - that even his own cat won't cr*p in - that could be a VERY noisy :-D

It's a good time of year for serious pruning, and my 20 ft bay tree is a little large, so I can do a lot of noisy 'stuff' - and it will look almost as unruly next year :-D
We all know, the more you prune, the faster it grows :-D

I had to have a mini digger in to get the bay tree out.I think they are more root than tree.

Yours might be growing under his foundation at this very moment!

Det,...the police said they can tell him not to do it,but as soon as the police leave,they can do it again...as well as the security light on his garage which comes on when the wind blows and beams right into the downstairs bedroom my late husband slept in...I don't use it,but I have complained.
I've only given the story briefly as when she was in my garden 3 yrs ago I took her to Women's aid and she went into a safe house,but got the bus and came home,so missed the court case which was delayed,police took her back and put her in a residential home ,when the next court case came up her family came,intercepted the social worker and took her back to their home 90 miles away.
He got her back and sounded his horn as he got the car out of garage with her in it and tooted away,putting 2 fingers up at me.
She's been there as a prisoner ever since,but occasionally if he sees me at the front he does a little dance and gives me these rude signs.
He sweetens his daughters with buying them things and they are nasty with me but but his eldest daughter.who lives down south knows what he's like and she told me that they lived in children's homes when young quite a lot as he was like that then.
She has put up with this for over 50 years. Was a midwife and nurse,ran a residential home and she made the money..it is so sad,and I used to try to take her out,but obviously he got jealous..he has no friends,no one visits..fallen out with friends of over 50 hrs ago...
My late husband never liked him...but this stupid man never did anything till he died..so he is a coward...don't think he can cope with strong women..has to manipulate as he has done with his wife who is like a little mouse....so sad,but I keep out of the way and use the back door mostly to go up to my garage.
The police still have a tag on my house and if anything happened they say they would come out immediately.

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You need a brother like mine, the house next door was going to be rented out, as i wasnt keen on having just anyone next door, my brother bought the house n stuck our neice in it,

she can get a bit noisey having the littun running around, nothing 10 minutes of westlife on my surround sound, doesnt sort out :-D


i looked into people parking on my drop kerb over my drive, n was advised unless theres a car on the drive at the timr nothing can be done,

These are the fifth neighbours I've had. :-(

It's not as if anyone regularly leaves a car parked outside all night/day. They usually pick me up or drop me off, maybe staying to have a cup of something.
Last time anyone stayed over was my son in law and daughter, sometime last year - he parked in one of 'their' parking spaces - and nothing was said!!

I'm waiting for them to comment on my 'visitors' - mainly my sister, other daughter, my ex, my 'driver' and my brothers. That's 4 males :-0

They are the sad ones Maggie...nothing better to occupy their time.
I have people parking outside my house all the time..and quite pleased as it looks a s if I have someone here.
My car now lives in the garage so I know it's safe,but all my other neighbours now know about Mr nasty.
They get their come uppance.
Your neighbour doesn't own the road.

Just heard a fracas outside - initially thought it was children, but went upstairs and opened the blinds a bit.....
People across the road, friends of my breeze block neighbours are in a stand-up, no holds barred shouting match (well she's doing all the shouting) with a couple and their child who had the 'audacity' to park outside their house - apparently in her husbands parking space :-S
The woman from the car is on the phone to the police.
They moved the car around the corner, outside my other (nice) neighbours house.
I heard the lady from the car saying the harridan was hitting her car - when her young son was in it.
Meanwhile, breeze block man has parked HIS car outside MY house.....

Methinks my 'full' hedge one side of my gate, and leylandii sprouting Christmas trees on top - that, apparently (according to breeze block moron) the WHOLE street had complained about (but not to me) are the least of the neighbourhood 'problems' :-D :-D :-D :-D
I have the sneakiest feeling they, and their 'mates' across the road aren't the most popular people in the street, and those who heard them complaining about my hedge would rather I didn't cut it for a while..........

I've found the local councils website about neighbourhood problems, and will be calling them tomorrow, to ask if they can send details of on-road parking regulations to breeze block and plastic flowers.

If the woman was hitting the car with a child in it police should take action against her, if only a warning not to approach the family again.

Nobody owns the road outside their house so anyone can park there. I assume it's a council maintained road!

They sound like neighbours from hell and if I had them I'd be wound up all the time :-(

I'm not sure if the police turned up - the poor family were visiting people who live 'up the cutting', where there is absolutely no parking - cars of the occupants are parked on the pavement all along it..

I will be sending in a complaint. These neighbours (next to me, and across the road) are the most recent people - been here about 2 years. Now the breeze block family next to me have finished their major (illegal) building project (and all the disruption - huge delivery lorries, unloading in the street, then the noise of moving it - they seem unable to 'talk' at less than 80 decibels) they seem to think the world should revolve around them :-|
We're a pretty laid back road of people here. If my other neighbours dog 'escapes' into my garden, I just grab him, take him back and Andy comes around and does another botch repair on his fence. It was much more fun when I had a pond, the dog would make straight for it, and just stand in it (I'd get Andy to remove him then, as the dog stunk!)
When my cats were kittens, and escaped, they'd be returned.
'Youff' used to hang around on the pavement by my leylandii. I'd go out before I went to bed, and suggest they left - and they did. No back chat, nothing.
Children chalk on the pavement - it washes away in the rain

Aggressive, intimidating behaviour, apart from being illegal, isn't going to make them many friends.....

I've sent my complaint - asked if literature about parking and the road not being 'theirs' can be sent. I've also given my name and address. They'll probably know anyway. Any more bull from them, and I'll report the illegal building in their back garden, constantly barking dog, slamming doors etc etc. :-D :-D :-D

I'm a peaceful person normally, live and let live, but that poor woman today......
......and the woman across the road was shouting so loud, I know I'm not the only witness......
If my dander's up - it's well and truly up!!! :-P :-P :-P

Well, after sending a complaint to the Council, they told me to contact the police - something I was loathe to do, BUT I think the poor woman who was harassed DID contact the police, and I hope my complaint to the council - where I stated I was a witness to the event across the road, and gave the house numbers of both neighbours suitably backed up her complaint - and there's every chance the neighbour from the house the poor woman managed to park outside also complained, because it appears both neighbours may have had a visit :-D

Last week my 'driver' parked in the space across the road. Apparently, the 'harridan' of the house invited him to park there! :-S
I assumed this was because he wasn't going to be there for a while.

Yesterday, the driver and I were out, but my ex was due to visit at 5pm.
We got stuck in traffic, and arrived to find my ex, in his car - RIGHT OUTSIDE NEXT DOOR'S GATE!!!!!!

I asked if he'd had any hassle. Apparently not. The son from next door parked his car behind ex's (so ex could have parked outside my house), and just walked into his house - didn't say a thing :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D

I hope they're now a wee bit concerned about their breeze block bunker (covered with planking to disguise it), that they insist they have planning permission for - they don't - there are building regulations, and there is planning permission - and there could be some H & S issues with the wood burning stove fitted by breeze block man himself. I'll just 'hold on' to that knowledge - for now. :-D :-D

result :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D

Maggie how long will it last though :-(

Fly, hopefully they now realise that I may be a woman living on her own, but I won't be bullied, or accept their bullsh*t.
They should now realise I may not have a car, but do know the Highway Code, and will take action if I, or anyone know to me, is harassed.
I will not cut my hedge because they say I should, as they don't like it - My hedge may be overgrown and slightly scruffy, but it isn't affecting the pavement or anyone else's daylight

The neighbours know, that I know, that the structure in their garden may look like a garden shed, but isn't. About 5 other neighbours also know this - they, like me, can see from their upstairs windows!
The house is still owned by the Council. They have been reported for anti-social behaviour, both to the police and council - this can affect their tenancy, as can altering the structure of the house without permission, and building illegal structures in the garden.
I've lived here for over 25 years. I've never caused the council or previous neighbours any problems or unnecessary disturbance.
They've been here 2 years. The others in the road have put up with deliveries of breeze blocks, gravel and decking over about 3 months.
The neighbours son, and those across the road have shouted and sworn at bus drivers who can't get passed their cars (sometimes parked a foot from the pavement) on quite a few occasions - there are witnesses to this - like the people on the bus - and me :-D

I have a feeling they're going to have to watch their step :-D :-D

Good luck Maggie <3

I reported our neighbours last year for having chickens outside my back door. The council came out to have a look and they moved them to the top of the garden but they still smell :-|

Oooh, Chickens shouldn't smell :-(