General Chat

I told my vampire that she was negative, can't remember exactly what I said as it was years ago.

She didn't phone me for weeks........result!

Do you think your lady might be lonely and or depressed?

I tend to steer clear of negative people, I wont engage in gossip/bitching, so much so a woman at work went ballistic at me one day, shouting 'You're always laughing and smiling'

....and the problem sits with who!

Yes Gins, she is lonely and depressed, but by the same token won't do anything about it, other mutual friends have tried and failed, eg suggesting last year that she go out with them for a pre Christmas dinner, or to church socials that kind of thing. She used to take a taxi down to the friend's house or the neighbour across the road would take her down to the nearby shop but that stopped when she had another panic attack and wouldn't get out of the taxi. She hasn't been out further than the gate for a year or more at least.

That's a problem. People who are depressed often don't know they are and will not/can't engage

Mental health is such a BIG issue

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yes my mum is one who is stuck in an age where everything was put in pots for a rainy day.she wont even have a debit card to pay for shopping etc.Funny really she got a new tv last year, a flat screen modern one with about 100 channels. I showed her the usual bbc1 , 2 itv1, ch4 and ch5. Then said channel 80 is the news so you can see it anytime of the day and she said..." nope, I see at at 6pm every eve and don't want it on any other time"!! she doesn't even use any other of the 100 channels except......wait for it .....lol the one that that shows repeats of dramas like morse, lewis etc and midsomer murders.....repeats!!! arggghhh

oh well if it keeps her amused and happy, who am I to judge.

Florence
in the hebrides :-S

I had one like that, only I was the one would make the call, she rarely called me .....

..... a childhood friend of OH's father, who emigrated to Canada around 1959, and then married for the first time at the age of 50+. I first met her in 1968 when we moved up here, because OH's father wanted us to make contact.

Her husband died about 3 years later, and that was the beginning of the phone calls, and visits. OH used to have to drive about 30 miles about once a month to pick her up for Sunday dinner and then take her home again afterwards. Even at the age of 60 something, it was one long monologue .......... and those Sunday afternoons were very difficult when we had a 3 year old, who could be demanding at times about wanting her share of our time, and the 67 year old

Later it became only phone calls ................ mostly re-iterating things people had done to her, like her father cutting her out of his will in 1950 because she'd married a man "he didn't know", and then how her siblings had not helped out.

In some strange way, I was very relieved yet upset when her dementia advanced to the point where she told me that she did not want to talk to me any more and I had no right to phone her. After the 3rd call like that, I took her at her word.

She did the same thing to a couple of other people, and as a result ended up dying alone in hospital .......... something I felt very guilty about when I finally heard.

Yet she had depressed me every Sunday for years



Rant on here ............ and treat her to a few "complaints" of your own.

The idea of you ending the call by something happening is also a good one

Or answer the phone, and say "Sorry, but I can't talk now. Can we leave it until next week?",

and put the phone down before she replies

Oops Florence I love all the repeats of Morse, Lewis and Misomer Murders, also Bergerac.

Rose it sounds as if your friend is suffering from Agrophobia as well as panic attacks and it takes medical intervention to help with that. Not easy.