General Chat

I don't think people would have a problem if Gr just un Pinned it, what people are disgusted at is people asking for them unpinned like they have decided we have had long enough to grieve,

Then that's reason enough if it gives comfort
and a smile for those who were very close. <3

Yes it does emma, <3

There was no disrespect intended. It would have been disrespectful to have this discussion on a pinned thread.

I agree with Rose. Perhaps the difference in opinion comes from the way we mourn/commemorate, our own relatives?

I have asked for the thread I started to be unpinned, it wasn't me who asked for it to be pinned.

Stella hadn't been a member of GR for some years and I just wanted to let people who may remember her know that she had died.

I don't see why I shouldn't feel able to ask that a thread I started be unpinned, especially when I didn't want it pinned in the first place.

GR used to unpin threads as a matter of course but they have very little interest in what happens on the boards these days.

And so do we rose,

they were not adding Rose

but it was been read :-( :-(

the words ..................


"storm in a tea cup" come to mind




and some of the words used on this thread are beyond what is polite and reasonable


some of you ought to be thoroughly ashamed of yourselves for the names you have called other people and the words you have used.


I did not know BC well, but enjoyed the few contacts I had with her

.............. I'm pretty sure that the woman I assume her to be would not have approved of some the things that have been said.


Grieving is one thing


wallowing in it is another!







and I already know that some of you don't like what I say ...................


but here goes .....................



it's time to let her go and rest in peace





it is not as if GR was going to be asked to remove the thread, it would still be on the Board, and you could raise it any time you liked by posting on it.


I remember some of the members who have died in the past ................. their threads only remained stickied for a matter of weeks.

Surely there has to be a limit for a thread to be stickied otherwise the first page would just be that and nothing else.

GB .............


there did once seem to be a time limit of a matter of weeks



........ and I believe that GR has been contacted in the past to unsticky threads that seemed to have been up for longer than "normal"

and I know that they complied, because the time limit was over



and, no, I was not the one who did the asking back then

TIME FOR CLOSURE,

THERE IS NOTHING STOPPING YOU
DOING A THREAD AND EVERY MORNING JUST ONE OF YOU NUDGE IT TO THE TOP,JUST ONCE A DAY.
PLEASE BC CAN YOU HEAR THEM FIGHTING
OVER A STICKY ,,,,,,, <3

IF GR read this thread, they will see that the majority of posters actually support the unpinning


4 against, and 13 for it to be unpinned, plus one ambivalent

Theirs no right way or wrong way to grieve
Everybody is different everybody copes how they can
its not wallowing its love
Hayley was closer to BC than any of us
I held Hayley hand during the funeral
So I know how much she hurts I seen it in her eyes
She has hardly posted since BC died
Because she is and was devastated and still is

I myself would like to give Hayley a ((hug)) <3

Before Shirley kindly deletes this thread
that has opened old wounds Please :-D :-D

and before another of us asks to have the BC thread unstickied??????????????




13 posters out of 18 on this thread support Shirley




so I hope that Shirley does NOT remove this thread



sorry, Joy, Hayley, Stray, etc


it's time to let BC rest in peace,


and for the rest of us to get on with our lives

OMG like as if GR boards move anyway ,, most of the time i would rather watch paint dry , shame ppl cant put up a decent post that makes ppl add . BC was well loved . stick a thread up and get more post to anyone who think they can ....

Shirley didn't mention anything about BC's thread when she posted - there are now 4 In Memorium ones at the top of the board. Of those, 2 have been 'unattended' for quite some while.

GR used to automatically un-pin a thread after a given time, something like 4 weeks. Unfortunately, as long as the software works, they take little interest on what goes on or how long a thread is abandoned at the top of the board.

No one likes to see another suffer - hopfully Hayley can come to terms with her loss with the help of her close friends. They say the first year is the worst. X

As I sadly added to Dutch's thread, I too thought that the other threads had been stickied for an uncommonly long time and wondered why that was so.

It's always difficult to move on from loss and each of us reacts in different ways depending on the strength of our relationship with the person who has gone.

I think Sylvia put things very well and Shirley or others should not be attacked for their comments and suggestions. I also think BC would not like the way Shirley has been 'spoken' to, however much people are still hurting at her loss. BC would be the first to want things calmed down.

I don't know if gr will pick up on this thread and take action on those stickied threads but it is certainly not something that should cause such nastiness

Liz

no one has a problem if GR just unstickied it, its the fact people are suggesting they do, it is disrespectful to some of us regardless wether 1 person or 50 is offended, some are

why are your opionions more important than ours??!!


Oh and please do not! Try telling us, what BC would be thinking, coz we new her on a personsl level, so we know exactly what she would say thank you,

Shirley aaked for our opinions, we have given them.

STRAY,
THIS WILL ALWAYS HAPPEN PERHAPS ITS TIME FOR
SOME ONE TO ASK FOR TIME LIMIT ON PINNED ITEMS
BUT I THINK IF GR JUST UNPINNED IT ,IT WOULD HAVE
BEEN A WORSE FOR YOU ALL,
NO ONE MENT ANY DISRESPECT,
I HAD MET BC SEVERAL TIMES BUT NEVER HAD THE CLOSNESS YOU GUYS COULD EVER
OF HAD,
LOVE AND PEACE TO YOU ALL,
XXXXXXXX

STRAY,
THIS WILL ALWAYS HAPPEN PERHAPS ITS TIME FOR
SOME ONE TO ASK FOR TIME LIMIT ON PINNED ITEMS
BUT I THINK IF GR JUST UNPINNED IT ,IT WOULD HAVE
BEEN A WORSE FOR YOU ALL,
NO ONE MENT ANY DISRESPECT,
I HAD MET BC SEVERAL TIMES BUT NEVER HAD THE CLOSNESS YOU GUYS COULD EVER
OF HAD,
LOVE AND PEACE TO YOU ALL,
XXXXXXXX