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Shirley, anything that you are doing is only for the benefit of hubby, nothing happening is your fault. The doctor is right you are doing a wonderful job.

Sorry to hear that on top of everything else you have an abscess, but hopefully the antibiotics will do the trick.

If you decide that a hospice is right for hubby, then it's the right thing to do, they have all the right medication to make life easier, and the care is second to none.

Please don't forget my offer of help if you need anything, even if you need a pint of milk, I'll fetch it round, no problem.

Sending you and hubby lots of love, and remember Shirley look after yourself as well as you're looking after hubby <3

Shirley, the doctor is quite right. You are doing a good job helping to keep your husband as comfortable as he can be in your own home. This is very precious time.

You will know when it is the right time for your husband to be cared for in the hospice.
In the meantime, continue to give your husband lots of TLC as you are doing now.

I hope the antibiotics will calm your tooth abscess before very long. BIG ((HUGS)) xxx

So sorry to hear this Shirley. You are doing a wonderful job and hubby will know how much he is loved.

I know you want the very best for your husband so I am sure you will make the right decision about him going to a hospice. For what it's worth, my experience of hospices is that the care is second to none and is given with love and compassion.

Keeping you in my thoughts <3

Thinking of you <3

Thank you all xx

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Special thoughts for you both.

<3 <3 Thoughts for you both Shirley and I hope that you can get that abcess cleared up, nasty things they are and will be making you feel low in yourself. I so admire how you are coping with looking after your OH but please don't think you have failed if you feel it is the time for him to go to the hospice. They are wonderful places and will look after you both so well. Please don't forget to eat and drink yourself to keep your strength up. <3

Your abscess should be feeling better now, the antibiotics will do the trick. Make sure you take them all. Hope they clear the cough as well.

You are doing the best anyone can do, the alternative for dehydration is a drip. Just keep doing what you can. The doctor would send him to hospital if he thought that would be better for him than what you are doing. The doctor sees you and home as the best treatment for your husband. TLC is wonderful.

The British hospices are second to none and happy, tranquil places, the patient is looked after in a friendly and compassionate way.

Whatever you decide to do, look after yourself.

Thinking of you in this difficult time. You have lots of friends on here to help you. <3

Hello Shirley,
I just popped back on to catch up on your thread. Thinking of you and Take care

Anne x

Nurse has been in today and given his anti sickness jab plus morphine as the catheter is giving him pain
She asked me if I had phoned any hospices and I said that the doctor had asked yesterday if I had considered it . She said she thought it would be the best place for him as he would get medical care but would he want it . I said ask him and she explained to him that he was very poorly and needed help with his sicknes and pain so would he like to go into a hospice . I said he probably doesn't know what that is so I said to him it's a small hospital, not a huge one like the one he was in , and they had doctors nurses etc who could help him .i could be with him every day too. He said "I would like that" so it's being looked into .

I want him to be comfortable and have all the medical help he needs and our daughter to is happy with the decision .

He gets TLC at home but his medical needs aren't there on a 24.hour basis

OHh and the abcess is a lot better today as is the chesty cough as the antibiotics do the trick for both .

Just a thought Shirley.

If drinking water is a problem why not try using a babies beaker with a lip on.

Thinking of you and family.

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Thanks Mr Magoo. He has them but can't cope with them . An having to spoon feed him water as his stomach rejects anything he takes down

Sadly his body is shutting down a bit at time which is why hospice is the way forward where he can be monitored and the suitable meds can be given to make him comfy .

As necessary he can be given morphine to let him sleep and let his body release its hold as it wants

I am happy to let him be made comfy and things to take their course as gently as possible for him

Won't be easy for us but his comfort is the families priority

Nurse has been in at 9.45 and given him more anti nausea and morphine to make him comfy . Hopefully the hospice will have room to take him so he can be medically managed as he lets go

Oh Shirley my heart is so heavy for you,,,,,,,,,you brave lady,,,,,,,,,

special tight hugs,,,,,,,,,,x <3 <3

Thinking of you and the family Shirley.
I'm sure the decision for the hospice is the right one.
They are so caring and will make your Husband comfortable .

Take care Brenda xx. <3 <3

You are in my thoughts, I hope that you can transfer to a hospice place soon, so that your husband can have ongoing medical care. They will also support your family through this very hard time
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Dear Shirley.
I am so sorry you are all going through this. I really feel for you. You are doing so well caring for your husband. The hospice will be able to give him medical care 24 hours. Its good to hear your antibiotics are working, take care of yourself. Sending love to your family.xx <3 <3

It's so hard to come to terms with when someone gets to this stage, you are doing the best for your husband. Comfort is what he needs now, out of pain and managed as he lets go. You are doing the best for him, you are a brave and caring lady. Remember if ever you need us we are all here for you. <3

My thoughts are with you Shirley.

Shirley <3

Thinking of you Shirley <3